the vdh has a thicker/heavier shell and bladder which should make it a bit more durable long term. the dgx has a pull dump elbow which is a pro to some and a con to others.
With regard to the shell thickness, are you talking about the "new" DGX wing? Or the old one that was identical to the Dive Rite Travel EXP wing?
I was diving with a friend all last week who was using the new DGX wing. I have 2 of the VDH wings (18 and 35). I didn't notice any difference in the shell thickness, but I freely admit that I did not really try to assess the DGX wing in that regard. And, I did not have my VDH wings there at the time, either. I looked at the DGX wing and it seemed nice and of good quality, to me. Plus, the DGX return policy means you really can't go wrong with it. If it's weak and tears up in 2 years, you can return it for full credit of the original purchase price.
As for the pull dump elbow, if you order a DGX wing, my friend requested a plain elbow instead and they swapped it out at no extra charge. That is what I would do if I ordered the DGX wing. Having the elbow (pull dump or plain) pull off the wing is very unlikely, but the potential results are so ugly that I just would not want a setup that encouraged me to be pulling on that corrugated hose. A buddy and I went to dive in NC back in December. On the very first dive, he jumped in and went to begin his descent by pulling on the butt dump valve of the wing on his CCR. The whole dump valve came off in his hand. The threaded part of the flange on the wing had broken right off. That is the same kind of threaded flange that is on the wing where the elbow attaches. I really try not to pull on that elbow - except during a pre-dive check....
@purbeast - if you are using 6# of weight in the pool, with an integrated BCD, then I would go for the SS plate. I'm assuming that you meant that you have 6# when in shorts (no wetsuit) and in fresh water. If that is correct, and you are preparing for salt water in a 3mm, it sounds to me like even with a SS plate, you might still need a couple of pounds of weight (presuming you're diving an AL80 or AL100).
On the question of what wing and size, I have put my money where my mouth is. For warm water, tropical diving, I got the VDH 18. I would only buy the 23 if my intent was to have one compromise wing that would cover all my diving and I was NOT going to do any real cold water diving. Once you throw cold water into the plan, you'd probably need a wing with more lift than 23. In which case, the DGX 30 or the VDH 35 would be a fine choice, I think.
If you're only going to dive warm water, or if you are going to buy a bigger wing at some point anyway, then, to me, the VDH 18 is a great choice. But, as someone else already pointed out, if you get the DGX or the VDH 35, it will certainly do everything you currently foresee. You would never NEED to buy another wing (for single tank, anyway). Though the 35 is more lift than you need for warm water, it is still a very compact and nicely streamlined wing. As is the DGX.
Bottom line: I would get EITHER the VDH 35 or DGX wing, OR the VDH 18. I wouldn't bother with the 23. The 23 seems like a bit of a pointless compromise, to me. If you're going to use a larger-than-necessary wing, may as well get one of the bigger ones to cover all possible future bases. Those bigger ones are still very nice to dive. OR, get the one that is ideal for your current plans (the 18) and wait to buy a bigger wing later, if/when you need it. You can't really go wrong either way.