Amberjack
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I keep reading this thread, because I find the different perspectives so interesting. I must admit, I am a bit terrified of having daughters, because I don't know how well I would handle a situation like the OP's. I get what those of you in the "It's no big deal camp" are saying, but I admit, the whole issue strikes a major nerve with me.
I was lucky enough to grow up with a mom who never (literally) wore make-up - she just couldn't be bothered. I think I got about to high school before the realization of how important appearance was dawned on me. And then, of course, came the wave of insecurities and the self-doubt that makes high school so hard for many girls.
I consider myself lucky that I managed to get almost to my teen years before I started judging myself based on my appearance, instead of my other qualities. It's probably only now, in my thirties, that I've stopped! (And maybe not yet entirely - being 25 weeks pregnant is not good for a girl's ego!)
I think it's really sad that it seems like little girls get so much less time to be blissfully ignorant these days. My friend has a charming, bright, adorable three-year old girl who I absolutely love - I wonder how old she's going to get before someone tells her she's fat. My 6 year old niece, who's goregous and knows it, spends more time in front of a mirror in the morning than I do - when I was her age, you had to hold me down to brush my hair.
All this to say, basically, what Andy said, back there pages and pages ago - something along the lines of what we teach girls to value about themselves - that's why it seems like a big deal to me.
I was lucky enough to grow up with a mom who never (literally) wore make-up - she just couldn't be bothered. I think I got about to high school before the realization of how important appearance was dawned on me. And then, of course, came the wave of insecurities and the self-doubt that makes high school so hard for many girls.
I consider myself lucky that I managed to get almost to my teen years before I started judging myself based on my appearance, instead of my other qualities. It's probably only now, in my thirties, that I've stopped! (And maybe not yet entirely - being 25 weeks pregnant is not good for a girl's ego!)
I think it's really sad that it seems like little girls get so much less time to be blissfully ignorant these days. My friend has a charming, bright, adorable three-year old girl who I absolutely love - I wonder how old she's going to get before someone tells her she's fat. My 6 year old niece, who's goregous and knows it, spends more time in front of a mirror in the morning than I do - when I was her age, you had to hold me down to brush my hair.
All this to say, basically, what Andy said, back there pages and pages ago - something along the lines of what we teach girls to value about themselves - that's why it seems like a big deal to me.