In our family we have agreed to the following signals..............
If we want to know what how many minutes of NDL any of us have left, get their attention and point to the computer and they first look at the computer, point back to the computer and show the corresponding number of fingers............
Similar to what we go for air, point to the gauge and they respond, after checking the gauge...............
If someone notices they are near NDL they swim to their buddy and point to their computer and hold up the corresponding number of fingers..............
That is exactly why we all dive the same algorithm computer, it makes the NDLs very similar for us as a group, not always exactly the same but usually relatively close........
When we dive together as a family I usually have the least amount of NDL as I do all the dives and as many extra dives as I can fit in such as night dives, so I end up with the most nitrogen loading..............
Now when I dive with an insta buddy, I expect them to manage their own profile and make sure they don't do anything silly...............some boats have a strict no deco policy.......
I always ask how experienced they are and if they want me to "check" on them (primarily air) but on longer deeper dives NDL would also be checked........
Hope this helps.............M