First year of marriage really the hardest?

[Abidon]

My wife moved in with me about six months before the wedding. Those six months were the worst; mainly because we fought over the wedding details. Eloping would have saved so much $$$ and headaches. I've been married for almost 2 years now, and they've been smoother than I could ever have hoped. Of course, we haven't had any kids yet. So I might be posting an update on this thread in about five years telling you otherwise. Good luck!

 

[escapeartist]

......They are wonderful, the light of my life, I love them more than anything, I wouldn't trade them for the world...... But then again, nobody has actually offered the world..... I have teenagers. I'd trade them for a chicklet...

Don't get caught up in yourself, have fun. Always have fun. We do and it definitely has worked for us.
Also, have several favorite liquors and beers.... daily

Funny with great advice in there as well...thanks!!!

I would be like a fish out of water without her. Marriage is a wonderful thing and always remember the simplest lessons be honest and loyal(or whats the use)
My 2cents

Awww....I love reading men write things like that. Very sweet.

My wife moved in with me about six months before the wedding. Those six months were the worst; mainly because we fought over the wedding details. Eloping would have saved so much $$$ and headaches.

Honestly, I would have run away if I'd known how much stress the wedding would be...seriously, my first instinct was just the two of us, a beach and a pastor. That would have been waaaaay easier. Looking back though, I loved every minute of the wedding day....just not the year of hell planning it...and we only had 67 guests! On our honeymoon all the couples we sat with one night had over 300 guests. CRAZY!

 

[Deefstes]

That is something that's always fascinated me, how wedding arrangements can be such a headache for some. I guess for the groom it's never really as much stress as for the bride but I was impressed with my wife how she just took everything in the her stride.

I think what she did right was not to try and micromanage every single aspect of the wedding. She gave the reception venue a broad description of what she want done with the table placement, the flowers, the cake table etc. but bascially told them to sort it all out. She didn't try to sort it all out by herself.

In the end the flowers might not have been placed on the tables exactly the way she had envisaged it at first and the drinks-on-arrival table may not have been in the absolute most undeniably optimally placed position but the day was perfect. We went into it with no unneccessarry stress and we enjoyed it tremendously. Conversely I've seen friends in their run up to their wedding going nuclear because everything had to be absolutely perfect.

 

[escapeartist]

Going into it, I didn't think it would be stressful. I even had a wedding planner. I think family issues were what made it awful...both of our parents are divorced and the wedding was out of town. We had family members flying in from all over the country and the world. Trying to get that all sorted out just about killed me. The other arrangements (flowers, cake, church, reception) were pretty easy in comparison.

 

[Warthaug]

Someone should stick a warning sticker on this thread - it isn't something that I (or any of the other unwedded scubaboard denizens) should have read 4 months before my wedding...

Bryan

 

[themagni]

The first year is rough because that's when you have to get used to all their private habits and learn what they're like when they're sick.

After about 7 years, you can confuse "contented" with "bored" and wonder what you're missing. The dating world is apparently completely insane, at least according to my younger brother. My wife and I had our tenth anniversary last summer.

According to my dad, after about 20 years, you hit another rough patch because you've been working your butts off for years to feed the kids and pay the mortgage. Once the kids move out and the house is paid off, you realize that you've got very little in common anymore. (My parents had their 34th anniversary last month.)

At my wedding (held on a Saturday) the city dug up the water main in front of the house we were getting married at in order to lay fibre-optic cable.

Just as a tip, if you want a bunch of construction workers to stop jackhammering during a wedding ceremony, it is much faster to bring them beer and snacks than it is to get their supervisors to come in on the weekend and stop them.

 

[Twistedarts]

Why ruin a perfectly good relationship and get married? It just complicates things, like diving.

 

[Rhone Man]

I dunno - I suspect the last year is probably the worst...

 

[escapeartist]

Someone should stick a warning sticker on this thread - it isn't something that I (or any of the other unwedded scubaboard denizens) should have read 4 months before my wedding...

Bryan

LOL Bryan...it'll be fine! Don't overthink it too much.

The first year is rough because that's when you have to get used to all their private habits and learn what they're like when they're sick.

....At my wedding (held on a Saturday) the city dug up the water main in front of the house we were getting married at in order to lay fibre-optic cable.

Just as a tip, if you want a bunch of construction workers to stop jackhammering during a wedding ceremony, it is much faster to bring them beer and snacks than it is to get their supervisors to come in on the weekend and stop them.

I agree with your thoughts about the first year....can't comment much on the rest because I'm not there yet! I believe it though.

As for the jackhammering...that is hilarious! Good tip. A car alarm went off during my vows and it was just the comedic relief I needed to stop crying like an idiot

 

[Rhone Man]

Thinking back on my first year of marriage (so long ago, it is hard to recall), we got married on the Thursday - on the Saturday I flew back to college overseas, and we didn't see each other for 10 months.

Looking back, it was probably the year that we argued the least...