Since in both cases, you have the length of a 5' or 7' hose to deal with, how does your system make it more controlled?
I just keep shaking my head at the idea that the wrapped hose is more complicated than your system. There's nothing complicated about the wrapped hose. It doesn't require tank bungies, there's no portion of it that's excluded from my view or my reach, and donation is instant. Although you make a large distinction between technical and recreational diving, I would say that technical divers would not adopt a system that made gas donation MORE complicated. The risks are too high.
I completely fail to see why the average recreational diver cannot easily learn to use a wrapped 5' hose. And I base that on having helped several VERY new divers convert to that setup. None has had any significant difficulty with it, and all have been able to donate quickly and effectively.
None of this is rocket science. It's not hard to figure out either method.
Both ways are simple and easy if the donator is in control of the situation and handing off the hose as per text book. But when a panicked diver grabs the reg (or hose) at a time and angle the donator is not prepared for, that's when the two systems are different.
Let me ask this way - what do you gain from placing the hose behind your head that you wouldn't get by running it directly too your mouth, (or putting it on the D-ring)? How does placing the hose behind your head make it more simple or safer? I think the answer is that it doesn't. In a controlled exchange, I think it makes no difference that the hose is back there, because the task is trivial. But if there is a panicked diver doing self-help, I think there are more risk to your configuration than you are willing to admit.
Placing the hose in a bungie on the tank is pretty much the same as tucking the excess hose in your belt. It works the same way, unfolds just as easily, and in fact they are right next to each other. I prefer one, but I can't see why it would make a difference one way or the other.
Tec divers have different considerations than rec divers. The example I read earlier was that they need to ensure that the receiving diver got the right mix of air, and that's why the primary was donated. That's not a concern for a rec diver.
But more than that, just because a complete system is optimized for cave diving doesn't mean each individual component of that system is optimized for rec diving. In fact, isn't it part of the DIR philosophy that you shouldn't take just portions of the configuration piecemeal? It's sort of "in for a penny, in for a pound", no? Don't they advise against mixing and matching configurations? If so, shouldn't you advise people that your recommendations are only valid if they are willing to follow you all the way down the rabbit's hole? For example, when you advise rec divers to use the hose your way, shouldn't you also tell them that they probably, (although not necessarily) need to get rid of their snorkel too? (Which, to be fair, I don't use at any rate.)