how people like to distribute between trim and ditchable weight.
Much depends on how much air I'm carrying. Should my wing fail completely with an AL80 tank, I would drop 5 lbs (if this happened at the beginning of the dive) or 2-3 lbs (if mid-dive). This leaves me about neutral at 15 ft, and I prefer to make a normal ascent with a safety stop. This is not a coincidence, as I've weighted myself with this in mind.
Why 5 lbs? Because that is the weight of the air I haven't yet breathed from that AL80 tank (full -> 500 psi).
Everything else I consider to be trim/non-ditchable. In my "recreational vacation" setup (salt, 3mm, AL80 tank, AL backplate), I need 12 lbs total to be neutral at the stop on a normal dive (at reserve pressure with empty wing). This, less the 5 lb I want ditchable, gives 7 lbs available for trim. I've determined that putting it all on the upper tank band removes the tendency to rotate when horizontal.
Thus, I carry 2&3 lb bricks on the waist in velcro pouches ("quick enough" to release) and 3&4 lb on the upper cam band (achieving stable trim when horizontal). Putting 6 lbs on a side keeps me from rolling as well.
I've done the analysis to figure out I am 9.5 lbs negatively buoyant worst case at depth (full tank, compressed wetsuit). After dropping 5 lbs, I only have to swim up a max of 4.5 lbs, which is within my lung capacity as well. I'm also only about 2 lbs positive at the surface, so I know I won't "cork" when ascending from the stop.
As an aside, I have done similar analysis for a 7mm suit I recently dove. (I took the time to measure its buoyancy before the dive, because doing so allowed me to calculate the extra weight I would need.) In this suit, I would still only drop 5 lbs to be neutral at the SS if my wing failed. The main differences are in the initial swim up from depth, which would be about 8 lbs (negative), and the need to swim downward during the final ascent to counteract the positive buoyancy at the surface (coincidentally also 5 lbs). This analysis also showed me that I would be basically neutral at the beginning of the dive on the surface, so starting the dive would mean flooding my suit (always fun in 7mm temps!), fully exhaling, and possibly duck-diving to get started down. All these consequences I deemed acceptable and therefore made the dive in this suit.
A warning, though: some wetsuits may have so much buoyancy loss due to compression at depth that you cannot swim them up, even after dropping weight to make you neutral at the stop. In such cases, my first suggestions would be to use a drysuit instead or don't dive that deep. However, if those are not options, I suggest you carry redundant buoyancy or work out how much additional weight you'll need to make ditchable to get off the bottom. In the latter case, also work out whether you can kick downward hard enough to avoid an unsafe ascent rate once the suit regains buoyancy. Not drowning is a good thing, but not drowning AND not bent is better.
Ease of initial descent, ease of leaving the bottom, ease of holding a safety stop, and ease of avoiding an unsafe ascent rate are all affected by the weight carried and portion you've elected to ditch should your wing fail. Find your sweet spot. You can explore such tradeoffs using
@rsingler's weight analysis tool mentioned upthread. (I highly recommend you measure your suit buoyancy, as that's the largest uncertainty in my view.)