the ability to understand and share the feelings of another
I very much agree with the spirit of you above post, but I'm reluctant to just say that folks are completely lacking in empathy. I'd argue it's a lack of experience (obviously, there's, what a couple dozen people in the world who have experience in these sorts of matters?) and a lack of imagination.
One of the things I've been trying VERY hard to do among the volunteer divers under my purview is to instill in them all an "anything can happen at any time" attitude. I recently had a conversation with a new-ish recreational instructor who is among these folks about something that happened while they were on vacation.
A diver came up some distance from their boat freaking out, full-on panic by the description. This new-ish instructor explained that in that moment he was sure he was suddenly crushed by the feeling that he was going to have to go into the water to recover a body. He had gone from, "Isn't this tropical water nice on my lovely vacation" to "I have to go retrieve a body and spend the rest of the day, if not the rest of my life, dealing with that" in the period of seconds. No warning. No preparation. NOW!
All turned out well, thank god. It was a somewhat simple incident with no injury not worth explaining further here.
But this person who has been listening to me (for years) try to wrap his and his fellow volunteers heads around that emotional shift and weight... this person with professional diver training and experience... this person who is an excellent diver and an excellent person... he had no idea. It was alarming, it was painful, it was scary. He didn't like it. We talked about it for a long while.
It wasn't a lack of empathy, it was a lack of exposure and a lack of imagination. It's hard to sit down and really think a situation like that through. We don't want to, because none of us want to be there or do it.
Bringing this train of thought back to this situation:
Most people on this board don't know what goes into an Eagle's Nest dive. Most people full-stop don't know. They've seen pictures of lots of tanks and maybe know some people who do something like it, but for the most part, they don't know first-hand.
I'd like to repeat my thanks to the recovery teams for their sacrifices, for their dedication to the community and the sport. I'd also like to thank those of them that had the emotional/mental space and wherewithall to put their thoughts not only to the official reports but into these various threads which I very much hope are enlightening to people who wouldn't otherwise know.
Now they haven't been there, they're probably not capable of doing what needed to be done... but they have a more vivid mental image of what goes into it and what the sacrifice looks like. Their imaginations are more fully armed to put themselves in such a situation of going from, "This dinner is lovely" to "I need to gear up for one of the most challenging dives on the planet and go deal with dead bodies with no concrete dive plan RIGHT NOW" with no warning or preparation.
Hopefully that will help them empathize more fluently.