There are (at least) two ways to look at it.
One is that you don't need a long hose, so carrying it and doing the couple things you need to do different to make it work is just not worth it. In this case, you need to either go with a 5' hose or find a place that works for you to stow the extra hose.
The other is that a long hose makes air sharing a much easier evolution even on a recreational dive. Once you have done it, you'll never want to go back.
Personally, I have found the waist strap on my BP/wing works fine to secure the hose on rec dives. If you have a BC, a 5' hose is probably a better option.
I also have a bolt snap secured to the mouthpiece with an o-ring. (Loop the o-ring through itself around the boltsnap and then stretch it over the mouthpiece so it stays suggly around the base of the mouthpiece.) This allows me to clip the long hose second stage to a D-ring if I am not using it, either during the dive or when exiting/lifting gear out of the water. It prevent the otherwise loose long hose second stage from snagging on something.
I have separate wings and regs for single and double tank diving, so while it would be easy to set up my single tank rec gear for a short hose, I prefer to keep the long hose as it's easy to address the potential problems. Consequently the benefits more than offset the risks/problems.