jagfish:
I remember when I first heard about DIR, just over a year ago. As a concise summary was patiently explained to me, I turned incredulous and resistant as I found the it stood for "Doing it right".
I remember feeling an immediate alienation and even resistance, because the name suggested to me that you are either doing it THIS way, or you are doing it wrong. To me it felt like right from the start, the name sets up a conflict, since it suggests there is only DIR or DIW.
This goes to the basic philosophical issue behind many of the controversies and conflicts in politics, religion, etc.
You can't, with any intellectual honesty, hold a conviction without holding that conflicting views are objectively wrong. You can't pursue the true best way without first accepting that a true best way exists. It's a conflict of the first law of logic, that of non-contradiction, that you can't say A is true AND false at once, versus the far less upsetting relativism of our time, which ultimately devolves into a pseudo-intellectual rubber stamp for one's impulses.
Ask yourself, why does it irk you so for someone to suggest that one way is better than another? Is it because you embrace the way being labeled inferior? What of that? You can't grow without changing - if someone truly showed you a better way, would your ego bar you from positive change?
What if someone tells you they've discovered how to get to heaven, and what they tell you isn't the way you thought it was? Should you just agree, or say, that's true for you, but not for me? No - one of you is right, and the other is wrong. Your only two logically valid choices are to change, or reject his view as wrong. The thing is, there's no objective way for humans to determine which of you is right, so you tolerate each other's views, but, contrary to PC linguistic revisionism, tolerance doesn't exclude concluding that the other guy is 'wrong,' it merely means you don't try to bludgeon him into being 'right.'
The interesting thing is that true DIR divers don't claim to have THE perfect way to dive. They are merely people who have acknowledged that there IS a best way, and agreed on a rational method of seeking it. JJ and others have said, if someone shows them a RATIONAL argument for changing something, they're willing to make changes. What they reject is the idea that the best way to dive is a question of whatever makes one happy. Keep in mind, 99% of the DIR followers are CONVERTS, and a great many of those resisted at first, so most DIR people have already demonstrated more open mindedness and willingness to change than most of their opposition. In reality, DIR should be STDIR, for "seeking to do it right" but that just doesn't flow well.
Look at it this way. If hearing it called "doing it right" causes you to bristle, ask yourself, how would you feel about calling the way YOU dive "doing it right?" Would you feel comfortable using the same term to describe the way you dive? If not, then why on earth are you diving that way? If you wouldn't call it right, then by default, you're calling it wrong. Why would you dive a certain way, not believing it's right, unless you just wanted to kill yourself without having your loved ones face the stigma of an obvious suicide? Why do you turn your air on before diving? Because that's doing it right. Diving with your air turned off is doing it wrong. Now extend that to the less obvious issues - just because it gets more difficult to determine the best way, does that mean we should give up?
Sure, there are people who just accept DIR blindly, but they usually fail to fully adopt key elements (most notably, the fitness one - how often do you see someone in a DIR rig, quoting George Irvine from behind a 54 inch waistline?) If you allow yourself to have a knee jerk reaction to the name, how are you any smarter than those people?
If you object to the term DIR, you're essentially rejecting the possibility of objective truth, and as such, you're forfeiting any standing to object to anything anyone says or does, because your sense of offense depends upon the existence of some objective truth for its validity. If no one is right, and no one is wrong, then those who claim to be right can't be wrong either - if you subscribe to the whole your truth/my truth nonsense, then that's THEIR truth.
That's why true relativism is just no fun - you can't tell anyone off without being a hypocrit.