As a big male, carrying more fat than I need, at 78 degrees I would wear a 3mm full suit and beanie on my first dive, and have a 3mm vest over that on my second. Also, pardon me if I'm straying into territory more involving yours/your wife's positions in dealing with issues like this, but you say ... "In all honesty, I think I will have my wife wear one of my old 3 mil wet suits in the warm temp and see how she does." I am thinking that your wife needs to get involved in the issue too. Ask her if she would like to read this thread, and also do a search for many others that involve the same subject. Allow her to be in control of her diving comfort.
Also, as someone else mentioned, your hand-me-down 3 mil will almost certainly be ill-fitting and not at all warm. And regarding appearance, I think active women who are involved in any sport look great outfitted for the occasion. Nuthin' better than a fine woman in head to toe neoprene ... and I'm not even kinky! In the end ... your wife needs to get comfortable, or say good-bye to your dive buddy.