I am a lot more concerned about under than over tightening a valve. You need a pretty long cheater to over tighten a cylinder valve into a steel tank. There is also a vast torque range between:
Under Tight: Lose enough for the O-ring to extrude or unscrews with abusive handling or less.
Over Tight: Damages the threads, over stresses the valve body, or rounds the wrench flats. Some might add damage the chrome, but that can be done with a bad wrench or technique and still have an under-tight valve.
We are talking about a thread that is about 1" in diameter, there is no need to treat it like a small screw. You dont have to go nuts either, but you have to be awfully strong to over tighten with wrench that is 12-14" long. The biggest problem most people have is finding a vise to hold the tank.