I certainly have found every word that you post to be true.
A 30 lb Oxy (or Halcyon Pio 27), a light STA, and a SS plate has worked out perfectly for me in a 3 mil, AL80, and fresh water. For salt, I dive the same rig, but add three pounds on either side of my rig. I can "swim up" all of the above.
Of course, your 3 mil is going to be a little different than mine... And of course, your body is likely to be different in terms of buoyancy, either more or less, depending on body density.
...But I think that most people agree that a light STA, SS "standard" plate, AL80, and a 3 mil is a good place to start your calculations. You'd have to be pretty radically different from what most people have experienced to not be totally thrilled with that rig... Especially as a starting point.
Most people who like the AL plates dive the same rig as above, but either without a wetsuit at all, or with heavier, steel HP tanks, not your regular AL80.
Those who tend to like the super-heavy, thicker plates typically are heavy cold/saltwater only divers who need serious ballast to sink, due to really thick exposure protection.
Of course, this may vary, for a variety of reasons... I'm simply making an observation - which seems to work for most, and which seems like it would work for you.
I love my Gary Hoadley backplates, but Scott Koplin and FredT also make excellent plates. The Halcyon plates seem to be fairly good, but slightly pricer, and with some lack of hand-crafted attention to detail... Especially in the smoothness of the slots. I personally favor the Koplin "light" STA, but they may be difficult to obtain, and Oxycheq makes a great one, too. Like most, I prefer to use a STA, even when using a wing that doesn't require one (the Halcyon Pioneers).
Lastly, if you do find that these plates don't "nail" it for you and that instead you need a little more or a little less weight in a plate, new plates are very inexpensive, and/or all of the above I'm sure would be willing to exchange so that you've got the right plate.
PS: Nice regs.
