I really appreciate all the responses... I read them all thoroughly and take them to heart.
I spent some time on the phone with my dive buddy from that day, and have come to realize he was absolutely in a frozen panic when he looked up and saw me in a cloud of bubbles and signaling to go UP. He is a good guy, but we are both really new to the sport, and it showed. If you had quizzed us the day before, we would have had the right answers, in the moment, it was just a lot going on for a newbie.
I agree about the octo, it should not have been taken off the necklace, but like I said before, in my OW classes and checkout dives, all of our groups octos were brand new and all would free flow if we left them in the octo holders on our BC's. That is bad equipment management on the part of the shop, yes. In the moment, since that is what I had already experience, when I saw bubbles, my very first mental thought was: "Damn, even my octo is spurting bubbles, let me get it off my neck and facing down", which is how I had stopped the flowing during training. As soon as I did, and the bubbles were still in my face, I knew it was my main 2nd stage. I had already had the thought when we first got in the water, that I couldn't feel anything very well with the marshmallow man gloves I was wearing.
In the moments at depth with the free flow about 300 things raced through my mind... Get the oct, don't get the octo you can breath on the free flowing reg just fine, breath deep, wow he is far away, i should swim up, get the octo, no your gloves are too thick to quickly feel for the hose, check your air, wow that is going fast, go up, go slow, dump air, wait you are having to kick really hard to get up, get up, check air..etc... I understand this is mostly a case of inexperience. Being at 60 feet was also weighing on my mind already, since that wasn't where I expected I would be.
My buddy agreed we did not stick to the plan, and he admitted he gets tunnel vision, and actually made the comment, that he is even worse when he has his camera. Thrilling. Before the trip he made a big deal about wanting to buy some sort of underwater noise makers, or tank bangers, so we could get each others attention... I had down played that idea, as I had zero intention of being far enough away that I couldn't just tap him.... so much for that... now I know why he wanted the noise makers.
Thanks to the people that are kinda sticking up for us.... I appreciate it... but I am pretty thick skinned and understand that 99% of the people on these boards are just trying to help, and it must be frustrating watching people inexperienced make mistakes that are just ingrained in themselves not to do... as this is our lives we are dealing with.
I will dive with him again, but we will be having quite the sit down meeting first. I honestly never planned on being at 60 feet that day. I really do want to find a group of more experienced divers to dive with...