I'll still stand on the idea that the solution is to initiate an air-share and THEN ascend
But the reality is that the majority of recreational divers have not practiced an air share since it was done a couple of times with an instructor on their knees in the pool. ….Unless you do OOG drills so frequently that you can go into one automatically without even thinking about it, when it comers time for a real one, chances are it will be a mess....
You may well be right, Rick -- but isn't it better to have the mess while the diver with the freeflow still has something to breathe, instead of having it halfway to the surface, where you now have to manage an air-share as a true emergency, in midwater?
There is so much truth here – from seasoned and very skilled divers. The OP and the buddy was not. With new divers, virtually any emergency or gear problem inevitability ends with the affected diver bolting to the surface.
There are only a handful of new divers that can be properly trained to handle an emergency properly the very first time it happens to them. What can be trained is how to make your first 25 or so dives. These dives are the most critical in new diver development and every one of them should include an OOA and freeflow regulator drill at least once, preferably on the first dive of the day.
Sadly the excitement of diving, air management, mask leaks and buoyancy tend to take all of the new divers attention leaving little room for drills. If new divers would dive their first few dives with the likes of Lynne or Rick they would rapidly become better divers.
My advice to new divers, dive your first dives with a mentor, do the drills and your diving experience will not likely end up in the accident and incidents forum.