Just my opinion (and I could run through some thermal analysis / heat transfer / thermodynamics calculations if someone wanted); but my thoughts are:
Slow fills are always better. Gas law physics will predict this. Look up isothermal compression and adiabatic compression for more details.
A water bath makes everybody feel good; but I am not so convinced that the heat transfer rates are high enough to make any real practical impact on the process. This heat transfer rate is perhaps the most difficult to gauge by intuition alone; but I will stick with my intuition until somebody is really motivated to perform a heat transfer analysis.
I suppose there could be some remote chance of introducing water to your cylinder. Make your own decision here. A water bath does add some level of operational safety to the fill station. If a tank should rupture, it would be better to have this rupture occur while in a water bath than if the tank is standing upright on the floor.
In terms of any high temperatures damaging the tank, your tank doesn't care what the temperature is. If the temperature were to get high enough to damage the tank material, 400 deg F, then no one would want to touch the tank and you could roast your favorite hot dogs using the tank radiation as a heat source. So, if you can't roast hot dogs from the glow of your tank, don't worry about the temperature.
Hot, quick fills?
Nothing about this makes any sense. This process will gaurantee that you compress hot gas into your cylinder. Absolutely. Then, minutes after you leave the fill station, all of that heat (evidenced by high gas temperature) will then absolutely migrate into the cylinder (and eventually move through the cylinder to reach equilibrium with the ambient environment). All this does is gaurantee that your gas cools to a lower temperature and a requisite lower pressure (compared to the pressure measured while standing at the fill station).