fsudiver
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Okay, clearly I am not bitter because I have simply walked away from this relationship. I didn't hurt him, didn't stalk him, didn't cuss at him, didn't throw eggs at his house, nothing like that. All I did was a little healthy venting, and I already feel like I am over him... and in time, will be over the deception.
FYI, here is a definition that does describe him as a psychopath: Psychopaths are manipulative, charming, glib, deceptive, parasitic, irresponsible, selfish, callous, promiscuous, impulsive, antisocial, and aggressive individuals who have no concern for the welfare of others, experience little remorse or guilt as a result of their injurious and antisocial behavior, do not tolerate delay of gratification, and persevere despite punishment; psychopaths are mostly male and are less than 1% in the general population; approximately 11% of the forensic psychiatric population and 23% of the correctional population are psychopaths.
I could give you examples of every adjective used above to describe him, but I won't. To the prior posters who had the same treatment, I am really sorry that you had to go through that. In my case, it was the long "friendship" before dating that threw me for a loop. He really had put on a persona all those years that I beiieved to be real, but once I broke up with him, he showed his true colors first with anger and arrogance. The email I cut and pasted here was his only kind attempt on his part to explain his actions, but even in it, he does exhibit psychopathic behaviors as described above. Let's drop this topic and move on.
I am just a little numb right now from this experience, but I know that will pass in time, too. In the meantime I am staying as busy as possible doing lots of diving and spending time with real friends and family. I know I am much better off without him in my life, and to those of you with similiar stories you shared, you are much better off too!
FYI, here is a definition that does describe him as a psychopath: Psychopaths are manipulative, charming, glib, deceptive, parasitic, irresponsible, selfish, callous, promiscuous, impulsive, antisocial, and aggressive individuals who have no concern for the welfare of others, experience little remorse or guilt as a result of their injurious and antisocial behavior, do not tolerate delay of gratification, and persevere despite punishment; psychopaths are mostly male and are less than 1% in the general population; approximately 11% of the forensic psychiatric population and 23% of the correctional population are psychopaths.
I could give you examples of every adjective used above to describe him, but I won't. To the prior posters who had the same treatment, I am really sorry that you had to go through that. In my case, it was the long "friendship" before dating that threw me for a loop. He really had put on a persona all those years that I beiieved to be real, but once I broke up with him, he showed his true colors first with anger and arrogance. The email I cut and pasted here was his only kind attempt on his part to explain his actions, but even in it, he does exhibit psychopathic behaviors as described above. Let's drop this topic and move on.
I am just a little numb right now from this experience, but I know that will pass in time, too. In the meantime I am staying as busy as possible doing lots of diving and spending time with real friends and family. I know I am much better off without him in my life, and to those of you with similiar stories you shared, you are much better off too!
mstevens:Very, very few of them are since psychopathy isn't very common and none of what you describe would be typical psychopathic behavior. There are plenty of great non-diagnostic terms you can apply to people such as this: jerk, coward, defecatory orifice, etc. The list is endless. There's no particular need to assume that an extremely severe personaility disorder must be present to account for behavior such as this. It sounds like simple and unfortunately common human venality and weakness.