Vent your frustration on this guy!

[ScubaTexan]

Maybe guys like this are psychopaths, ScubaTexan. Maybe they share the words they should use to most hurt the girl they are dating.

Ummm....maybe I should have explained my story better. I'm a guy and the person that said this to me was my ex-girlfriend. Sorry for the mixup. :frown:

 

[fsudiver]

It's okay. Unfortunately psychopaths come in both genders! Thanks to those of you with the words of encouragement and understanding. I do deserve much better, and you'd think if you knew someone for so many years before dating them, that if nothing else the friendship would make them be respectful...unless they are a self-absorbed psychopath like this guy (and ScubaTexan's ex-girlfriend)!

Ummm....maybe I should have explained my story better. I'm a guy and the person that said this to me was my ex-girlfriend. Sorry for the mixup. :frown:

 

[rjchandler]

I thought this board was about diving - not personal vendttas. Posting other people's e-mail is also frowned upon is it not? This thread should be removed by the Mods.

 

[Giggi]

I'm sorry for the pain you're feeling, however you state that you were friends for 15 years before you decided to have a relationship. You should find it in your heart to forgive this guy and move on. Don't forget that his cowardice put a big dent in your friendship, and move on knowing that in forgiving him, you have taken the morally superior path and can stick it in his ear anytime you feel comfortable doing so.

It's his loss....don't let a wonderful vacation be tainted by something that happened afterward. Perhaps some day, you can double date with him and his girlfriend, and you and your new, rich, handsome, and much better equipped boyfriend (and believe me, there will be one).

My momma always told me "What goes 'round, comes 'round." If you wait long enough, he is bound to repeat his mistakes and you can stand back and laugh at him, or else sit back and enjoy the inner peace that letting go gives one.

 

[fsudiver]

I agree, Giggi, but joe chandler, this forum said specifically it was Women's Views- Non Diving Related, so you are wrong about the appropriateness of this thread. Further, I did not post the guy's email address nor his full name. If you read other threads in this group of non-diving related women's views, there are other women complaining about their guys- even a married woman who did so- and based on the responses so far, nobody seems offended by the jist of this thread, which is to let out frustrations. Maybe you are offended because you are like him.

 

[fsudiver]

LOL...now that's the kind of venting I am talking about! Thanks, ScubaBabe22.

Wait, yall knew each other for 15ys before hand....

In that case, stillettos as a weapon are called for!

 

[Mrs.Prages]

fsudiver, I think I've dated that guy myself. Tell me was he dating one of your best friends when he decided to dissappear or was he at least kind enough to pull from another pond.

I feel your pain, but I will tell you that there are some good ones out there. I promise.

 

[FreeFloat]

I understand that you're frustrated, but to be honest, I see nothing particularly jerk-worthy in his email to you. He did not use foul language - he admitted that he was too chicken to be up-front withyou about "the other girl". I can only imagine how he felt just before vacationing with you - he must have been wound up in thinknig about the other girl and probably spent a lot of time imagining how he could let you off easy. Unfortunately, he didn't. I feel that he should at least have had the nuts to sit down with you and explain that he'd "rather be friends" (insert catch phrase here) rather than suck it up and pretend like nothing at all was wrong!

There are only two parts that bother me about this story, what little of it I can see: that the guy played "happy loving couple" with you, when obviously he had already given his heart away, and that you chose to tear him a new ********e when you found out.

I mean, I can understand you being upset, but from the nature of his reply, I don't see a jerk who's out to destroy your life - instead I see a tortured soul who a) can't decide who or what he really wants, and b) is too gutless to do the right thing and instead hides from his problems rather than approaching them head-on (thus the long period of silence)

 

[Ann Marie]

I understand that you're frustrated, but to be honest, I see nothing particularly jerk-worthy in his email to you.

Jerk-worthy the email was not. Granted he is still gutless for writing it and not speaking with her. Jerk-worthy is: cheating and lying. Both of which he did to her. It is so easy to take the upper-hand "please don't respond if you are going to use foul language and call me names" when you are the one that did wrong and wasn't hurt!

fsudiver: Be glad you didn't waste anymore time with a looser that happens to be a wimp!

 

[SteveDiver]

I thought this board was about diving - not personal vendttas. Posting other people's e-mail is also frowned upon is it not? This thread should be removed by the Mods.

This is a non-diving related thread.... Posting other people's emails is not an issue that I am aware of. Is this topic a little sensitive for you and you want it to go away...brings back memories?