Sorry for being a while in responding, but I didn't see the post until now. Those are certainly reasonable questions. I'm basing the interest in fluorosilicone grease on this maintenance FAQ on a site in the U.K.:
http://www.camerasunderwater.co.uk/info/pages/maint.html
I wouldn't want to use a silicone grease on a silicone O-ring and find that it swells and fails in service.
There seems to be excessive mystery out there about O-rings and grease. As you know, every manufacturer warns only to use their O-rings and greases, which go at premium prices -- but they never say what it really is. This might leave me toting around different greases for the camera or housing, strobes, cords, extension tubes, etc. I did get one manufacturer to tell me what grease they actually use (a standard Dow-Corning formula). Also, I heard a funny story from another manufacturer. "Well, we use Dow-Corning xyz here," I was told, "but really, just about anything would work. Cooking oil would be fine in a pinch."
Interesting that you bought your own O-rings for your Nikonos without problems. I assumed early on that this would be fine, but then got warned by manufacturers about playing too fast and loose with O-rings. I was told, for example, that I shouldn't use a Nikonos lens O-ring on my Gates extension tubes, or vice-versa; although the lens and the extension tube fit into exactly the same place in the camera, I was told the O-ring channels in each might be milled slightly differently (metric vs. imperial?). I also got the same advice about not mixing O-rings between, say, an Ikelite Nikonos sync cord and the Nikonos sync cord connector cap; again, although these screw into exactly the same place on the camera body, supposedly they might be milled differently.
At any rate, most of my camera gear is now long out of warranty, though I do try to make a point of using Ike grease on my new Ike D70 housing (don't get me started on the tiny, messy Ike grease tubes ...)