divinh
Contributor
If you had discussed/planned your dive with your buddy before hand and inquired with the guide/dm/instructor if the protocol was to follow them, and your insta-buddy swam off in another direction and you felt it was unsafe to follow them, then certainly you would be correct to NOT follow the insta-buddy, and explaining that situation should/would suffice.
I have been in situations where I have terminated dives and the person I was diving with wanted to continue, I either ascended towards the surface in safe manner or swam to the exit point attaining increasingly shallower depth. The one dive partner that decided to argue about this is no longer a dive partner of mine and I am just chuffed about that. Had this been an insta-buddy the decision would have been even easier. Your first duty is to keep yourself safe....every dive brief, for recreational diving, should include a statement that "anyone can abort the dive for any reason".
If my dive buddy wanted to abort a dive 10 minutes into a dive. I would follow my dive buddy to the boat unless instructed otherwise by the guide. I have no issues with cutting my dive short to ensure that my buddy makes it back to the boat.
The "anyone can abort the dive for any reason" doesn't force the buddy or group to follow along. If an accident, especially a fatality, were to occur, everyone would be questioned and second guessed for leaving that diver alone. This very much happens here.