Ultimately an OOA diver will "take" the first breathing source they can get to ... regardless of which it happens to be. Whether that's the primary or secondary, I will never understand why any agency teaches that you allow the OOA person to make that choice, rather than the person who's donating. Regardless of which second you want them to have, if you hold it out where it will be the first one they see and reach, they will "take" it ... because it represents the air they want.
You are assuming you will always have that opportunity. In the cases I know involving the traditional octo steup, the divers did not know the person was OOA until the OOA diver was trying to grab the regulator. If that is what is happening, you don't have any opportunity to hold anything out for them to choose.