Situations have a way of becoming bigger than you. I think that was also what Hetland was saying. Here are several examples (all involving fairly or very fit people) -- all had good outcomes. (My first was in my open water class when my buddy froze up).
I was body surfing off the Washington coast when I was probably about 17. I was in water not that much over waist deep when the rip started -- it simply drug me out. My younger brother was a bit closer to shore and I yelled for him to go in now. He did. I rode the rip out as I swam out of (not against) the rip. I then had about a 1/4 mile swim back. I didn't panic (I was mostly thinking that a 1/4 mile swim in a 1/4 inch farmer john with beaver tail and no rocket fins was going to suck badly). I was comfortable in the water. No matter your fitness level (mine was probably fair), you were getting sucked out. If you fight those rips, you almost always die (regardless of fitness).
Not sure if I could avoided the rip before or not. I can tell you this: I spend much more time reading the water before I go in than I ever did at age 18.
I met someone on Bonaire who had just completed a very, umm, exciting dive. Their group surfaced offshore closer to sunset. That was their plan rather than swim in underwater. No current to speak of. They then swam due west. (One guy thought the clouds were "the mountains of Bonaire" and had them swimming towards the sunset). Somebody eventually figured it out. Now they had a long swim back. One person then froze and refused to do anything. They had to tow her back. She seemed to have a very good level of fitness but simply freaked.
Yes, fitness came in handy towing back one of the people. But, in that case, a bit more judgement would have meant no incident at all. If they had kept going, no level of fitness would have saved them. I have towed back very fit divers who would not do anything to help (beyond breathe out of their reg and lay rigid) until their butt was literally dragging on the gravel or sand of the beach.
My points:
a) Fitness is a good thing. There are things more important but it is a good thing. Slim does not always equal fit. Larger does not always mean unfit (as the OP, I think, agreed).
b) I think the OP was a bit harsh (and he later explained) in tone and what got lost was his other points about becoming better divers. On balance, a good post. (I got the Full Metal Jacket quote, otherwise I might have reacted differently).
c) I think Steve scares me. In the same way that a teen driver is sure they won't get in an accident because their reactions and vision are so much better than that of their parents. And they have been driving for a whole six months now and they got a bunch of driver ed training and... But they have yet to hit black ice or drive too fast during a heavy rain or...
Steve:
I know that a few posters have hurled insults or used names. I agree that is bad form. That said, probably a half dozen posters have tried to explain their views and they just seem to bounce off of you.
For example, I wish there was a great study on fitness and panic. Interesting topic. My personal theory is that panic is more often driven by a lack of intrinsic comfort in the water that a solid grounding in water safety skills helps provide. Too bad I don't know of a study on that either. You seem to be hanging on to a chapter from an old book and ignoring the merits of posts from people who have more dives than you and I combined will probably ever make -- and what they have seen first hand.
Another example is your comment about buddy diving and saving someone else. You make it sound like the issue is so clear cut -- there is always risk and reward in helping another. Judging and managing that risk (including when to back off) is the important skill in rescues. Or how you insist that nobody over weight can have a decent level of fitness. Or how you talk about fat people versus the rest of us.
Said another way, the world is a million shades of gray and you seem to inhabit a very black and white world.