MikeG
So sorry to hear of your misadventures. Hope you are doing better, please keep the board informed. (My husband always wonders why I read all the horror stuff, my answer to be better prepared and learn from those more experienced! And there is certainly a lot of good material following your post.)
Couple things - how do the rest of you feel about 2 instructors w/ 4 students, 2 "more experienced divers" given Jersey waters? Maybe I'm too conservative, but knowing Jersey diving (cold, low viz, strong rip, non-navigable inlets, dangerous wrecks) I would have thought the LDS would have included more supervision. (My LDS diver/instructor-DM ratio is almost 1:1, sometimes I think we have more DM's then divers)
Had you considered returning to Dutch Springs for the AOW dives? My husband completed his there, due to the newness of nav and nite, he wanted a little more confined space and feared the situation you encountered - being sucked out to sea. Granted it is not a 'real world' situation, but his experience there was great.
About the pony bottle questions, for some reason we in Jersey love our ponies! As was pointed out, they are never included in calculations for available air, are for extreme circumstances, are added insurance polices and are there to help buddies and fellow divers more so then for the person carrying the pony. None of the NJ boats I've worked with require a pony, but most have a profound respect for it. We travel with our own. The price of the hydro is worth it to us.
Training - I was appalled when I realized you could take an OW course over a WEEKEND. Fri/Sat/Sun to learn the fundamentals. Absorbing the theory, learning the calculations, spending skills practice time in the pool and then doing a check out the next weekend? Even my LDS, whom I consider very reputable, offers this option. Being a little older, slower and having a few more ducets, I opted for 'learn at your own pace' program. I took 3.5 months - 3 nights classroom - theory and testing, at least 10 nights in the pool (I said I was slow). I had some of those weekend students in my OW check outs. I did not feel they were as prepared as they should have been. Their level of comfort setting up gear and general lack of knowledge was sad.
About buddies - I would like to expand on Spectre's post. You place your life in your buddies hands. The word is not "briefly acquainted with", it is "buddy". I am lucky to have 2 people I dive with 95% of the time. We still have a pre-dive talk about plan, how we feel - stressed, fatigued, air fills, etc. I will not dive beyond 30-40 with a new buddy. People new to us have a long talk before we get near the water. We communicate signals, plans, etc. I am a heavy breather and not hesitant to inform others, early and often, of my propensity to suck a lot of air in certain situations. My friends have had to shorten a few dives because of me, too bad.
Last, please, please report incidents and episodes such as this. Recreational diving is an activity that relies upon self-reporting. Valid statistical information can only be accumlated if we report. The more valid the info we all have, the safer we can all be. And remember - P5 - proper planning prevents potential problems.
Good luck Mike! Hope to see you on a boat sometime, lookin for Jersey bugs. Yummy.