single divers

[Wreck Wench]

Spectre once bubbled...


Let's see. Chad, Wendy, Myself, our counterparts, and I'm sure others have already done just that. Where do you see this being discouraged?

MikeF posted the following: "You mean that you wish for this board to help divers get married?"

My reply was two fold....no that wasn't what I was asking but if it happened would it be a bad thing? So I wasn't sure if he was discouraging it or not....that's why I asked.

 

[CBulla]

So, would it be wrong of me to say I want a "married with children" forum? I mean, there are a lot of interesting issues that arise from diving while married and even more when you have a little one(s) entering the scenerio.

 

[Big-t-2538]

Wreck Wench once bubbled...
DRUM ROLL PLEASE....

Big-T is waiting to get "THE" phone call saying that his lovely wife is having a baby boy!!!!! :baby:

Now please start a new thread to congratulate him!! :appls:

Although this is true...I respectfully request that such applause/etc. is held until we find out for sure everything is O.K. with mom, baby, and family....

Other than that....attitudes seem to be a bit heated...I'm not upset...just concerned that this "discussion" is turning into more of a heated debate similar to this is my cube...stay out, etc, etc.

We need a fire-fighter smily...but for now...this will have to do...

 

[CuriousMe]

CBulla once bubbled...
So, would it be wrong of me to say I want a "married with children" forum? I mean, there are a lot of interesting issues that arise from diving while married and even more when you have a little one(s) entering the scenerio.

Why would it be wrong for you to ask? If there was a large part of this community that wanted a married with children forum and was actively requesting it....it should be considered.

But there isn't a large group asking for that....the reason is that (at least it feels this way) the majority of the memebership is married with children....so why would you need a separate place?

I would assume that this is why there isn't a Men's Forum...percentage wise, most divers are men....every forum is appropriate for issues that effect men....the industry is geared to male divers. Same kind of thing.

Peace,
Cathie

 

[Gibbon]

"If the majority of the singles didn't whine like colicky babies, they might not be single in the first place and there would be no need for such a forum.."


Being a single guy myself, I find this comment................pretty darn funny.

 

[Wreck Wench]

Scott M once bubbled...
The womens forum didn't start out with the statement; singles only, married folks responses not welcome. I'd quote the exact wording but I can not find the post.Scott

Yes I'd seen that thread too...but didn't recall it being that harsh! Found it under the General Travel section since the post had to do with travel related questions. Here is his request regardling who he would like responses from:

"(Please note: This possible discussion is being offered for exchange with other unmarried, uncommitted divers about challenges unigue to us. I humbly request that others not hijack the thread with their posts. PLEASE)

It doesn't sound disrepectful to me.

 

[Spectre]

Wreck Wench once bubbled...
It doesn't sound disrepectful to me.

I ask again. How does being exclusive promote the sense of community? What issues do single divers have that don't apply to divers with non-diving SOs?

Being in a relationship isn't a permanent thing, nor is it something that generally has existed your whole life [like being female]. There is _no_ reason that those in relationships can not provide insight on issues, or that those issues are specifically unique to people currently not in a relationship.

 

[CBulla]

I was being partially sarcastic. Even when I was single, I couldn't see a need to segregate myself in that sort of sense.

We're all divers here. We enjoy a sport that has some very unique characteristics and qualities about it. The forum itself provides a great outlet to finding others who share in the sport itself, both single and married. Enjoy the chat and camaraderie that is offered here, the rest will happen as you get to know people.

I've met a lot of great dive buddies on here (and the board has functioned 110% in being able to hook my wife and I up with others to dive with and places to go!) and through chat, buddying with them I've learned who has kids or not, whose single, a single parent, etc., and we've all had great dives and some great times I won't soon forget. I've even heard "I wish I could meet that someone to be a spouse and a diver" like my wife and I do when we have a sitter for the lil one.

Honestly, its not a forum thats needed, its getting out and socializing. Its being among people who share the interest. If your shy, it'll drop as your comfort with the people increases... especially if its a dive you do regular. Sooner or later that right person will be at the dive site.. buddy with em

 

[Wreck Wench]

CBulla once bubbled...
So, would it be wrong of me to say I want a "married with children" forum? I mean, there are a lot of interesting issues that arise from diving while married and even more when you have a little one(s) entering the scenerio.

Not at all......does anyone else share your request? Since I don't have kids (yet) this is not a problem for me so I have not specifically searched out threads that might address the comment. However if I did have kids you can bet I'd be asking others how they handle it....how they feel....how they deal with being pregnant and not being able to dive...etc. etc. etc.

Perhaps you should start a poll like Medic13 did and see who else wants a similar forum? Or do like the singles have done and start a thread...you might try the women's views section since the original "How to meet male single divers" aka "the Original Singles Thread" started there and see if it runs for over 2 years and then gets started over again in the NDR forum where it manifests itself into numerous threads on the topic which then results in various dive trips specifically for singles and then numerous requests for a singles forum and NDI club.

If all that happened and you requested your own forum.... I'm sure they'd turn your request down too! LOL!!!

 

[Scott M]

Wreck Wench once bubbled...


Yes I'd seen that thread too...but didn't recall it being that harsh! Found it under the General Travel section since the post had to do with travel related questions. Here is his request regardling who he would like responses from:

"(Please note: This possible discussion is being offered for exchange with other unmarried, uncommitted divers about challenges unigue to us. I humbly request that others not hijack the thread with their posts. PLEASE)

It doesn't sound disrepectful to me.

WW,

I know that was the carefully worded version.........

How would people feel if before or after every post you, me or anybody makes, there is a disclaimer listing those that need not respond?

My only issue with is that from experience from other forums I have frequented the more seperated the forum becomes the sooner it breaks up or people just plain lose interest.

I just don't want to see that happen here.

Scott

P.S. I am leaving for a short weekend in a few minutes so if I do not respond I am not ignoring anybody, I am just not here.