@drrich2 your report was the one I read a few times when I was preparing for my trip! To comment on some of your points:
1) The Dive Lodge is still available. Somebody who was staying there mentioned it was $40/nt, which is cheap. Basically just a dorm room.
2) The drive to Raleigh was just under 3 hours. Very pleasant and easy drive.
4) Sounds about right! The three wrecks I dove were all deeper offshore ones. Max depth and dive times:
Aeolus Dive 1: 99ft, 38 min.
Aeolus Dive 2: 100ft, 37 min.
Caribsea Dive 1: 84ft, 39min
Caribsea Dive 2: 85ft, 42 min.
Spar Dive 1: 102ft, 41 min.
Spar Dive 2: 74ft, 42 min.
5) I took the generic version of Dramamine. Most people on board wore scopalamine patches.
6) Interesting. I've only done one day of diving in FL and two in CA, so even more limited experience in those regions, but both ops handled the tanks. I am a Divemaster and so I do prefer to set up my own gear, and I'm happy to analyze the mix of the tanks I am renting, but I could do without hauling the tanks to/from the boat. If I'm paying $200 for two dives, I think an op should be able to put the tanks on the boat for me. Having the staff just stand there and watch me seemed unnecessary.
7) We took a number of morning and evening walks on the beach at Atlantic Beach and it was lovely. My girlfriend basically just hung out there whilst I was out diving (she only has 8 dives, so... definitely not ready for NC diving!).
8) Agreed. These are the largest sharks I have seen on a non-baited scuba dive.
First day was choppy on the way out, calm on the way back. Second day was choppy both ways (nothing crazy though). Third day was extremely calm to/from. Sounds like I had relatively calm seas.