It seems like this is an almost dangerously quirky reg engineering-wise compared to other ones I've worked on…..but with this one, if something is just slightly out of spec, to the point of me not even being able to visually see it, the reg will fail and maybe kill me 100' deep. If I can find a single source of parts, I might still give it a try out of stubbornness.
I couldn’t disagree more, and I’ve worked on dozens of these things. I use them for my 2nd stages in cave diving exclusively, even though I’ve had much more modern 2nd stages and I could use anything I want. These things are as reliable as it gets.
As an aside, no regulator is going to ‘kill you’ at a 100 feet or any other depth. Regulator failure is a nuisance, not a danger, if you’re diving safely.
Getting back to your problem, I don’t know if you’ve tried a new spring, but several people have suggested it and my experience is that changing the spring on these 2nd stages (as with the G250/200B) tends to make them much easier to tune. But, what you’ve described is pretty unusual, it goes way beyond normal tuning issues, assuming that I am accurately understanding your description.
It’s possible there’s an issue with the balance chamber; there were balance chambers of differing lengths and I would get a new one. When I convert a 109 to balanced, I change all the parts in the valve mechanism; spring, poppet, balance chamber, and then I closely inspect the orifice with a loupe and make sure the surface is pristine.
Another thing you could try is to get the duro poppet, and leave it unbalanced, using one of the larger springs. They perform quite well unbalanced; they might not hold a tune as long or as accurately, but with a good 1st stage it’s only a subtle difference between the unbalanced and balanced poppets in a 109.
Trying it with an unbalanced poppet would eliminate any question about the fit of the balance chamber. Another thing to try is to confirm that your orifice is in fact the correct length; I’ve seen a brass orifice that for whatever reason, was a different length and tuning the reg with it was a nightmare. Eventually I figured it out; I think someone had substituted that orifice for a OEM at some point earlier in the reg’s life.
Once you get it working without a diaphragm in place, then you can start looking at the lever height. That’s the one area that I have found finicky with these 2nd stages, but usually it only results in slight variances in how low you can get the cracking effort with the diaphragm in place.
Good luck, if you decide to throw in the towel, I’d be happy to take it off your hands and try to get it working just for fun. If I have success, I’ll be happy to send it back or buy it for a reasonable price, or trade something. I don’t really need any more of these, that’s for sure!