Of course I'm planning for separation. If we are separated and my son has a main tank failure, he has a pony on his back. If we are separated and I have a main tank failure, I have a pony on my back. We follow standard procedure for separation. If we are separated and we are diving a single tank with octo, and one of us has a failure, where does that leave us??? EXACTLY one of the reasons I think a pony would be superior to the single tank w/octo. AM I MISSING SOMETHING???
I am NOT planning for every scenario presented to me here in this thread, and currently I have no intention of planning for such. As previously noted, we have 40 dives as certified divers. We've done 15 resort dives before that. I'm planning for my son and myself. Not even going to consider if my son is separated, and suddenly another diver needs my pony at the same time my main fails, only to discover that my pony doesn't have any air in it because I've been breathing from it the whole dive, when I suddenly discover that my left fin is on my right foot...
Yes, that's exactly my point. You are choosing a pony based on the volume that you both have combined, assuming no buddy separation, but you are also claiming that you are planning for buddy separation:
There are two pony bottles, we're buddy diving. That's 38 cu ft, not 19, of reserve air.
Perhaps I have said something to upset you, you seem to be responding is a somewhat defensive manner. You have 40 dives in your log book, and you started this thread by asking if you were missing something. You have some experienced divers offering pretty standard advice about how to rig a pony and how much gas to carry, and you seem to want to make this into a debate, responding to these points with counter-arguments. Of course, I'm not saying that we are necessarily right or that you haven't thought things through or done your research. But if you are going to ask for advice, maybe be a bit more open to ideas that you hadn't already thought of.
A lot of the "standard" gear configuration advice comes from the tech world. Many recreational divers reject this advice because they think that it only applies to technical diving. This is not wise. Technical divers obsessively optimize their gear based on real world experience and accident analysis, and there is a reason why most tech divers tend to use fairly similar approaches, and why most tech agencies recommend similar gear configurations. Most of these optimizations apply just as well to recreational diving. So take that for whatever it's worth...
It's nice that you are diving with your son, I do that too and it's a blast...
Safe Diving!