...By the time you arrive at the surface, your "help" will be unnecessary, as they will have embolized and will already be dead.
Bob, I believe it is you who is making the assumptions here. I'm not saying that what you describe is not possible, but from my experience is unlikely. To answer your question however, yes I have had quite a bit of experience with panicked divers.
...YOU are in a far more better position, having had a breath much more recently than the diver in Scenario #1, to initiate a CESA that will get you to safety without the risk of panic.
Again I find your assessment improbable, as I cannot imagine how well the average diver can do an actual CESA successfully from depth; especially when they have another diver in-tow, physically attached to them by their regulator. I don't know how many CESAs you have personally done in open-water, but I've done quite a few as part of my Navy training. I would not want to be tethered to another diver while doing it.
Bottom line is that the real enemy here is panic ... and the scenario that best reduces the risk of EITHER diver going into panic is the one that has the best chance for a happy ending ...
I agree. I just disagree on your solution.