Mike Walker
Contributor
I'd be afraid of surprising a cat when I grabbed a tail, and they can turn fast!
I've never been able to read horses. I just make sure they know where I am and hope they don't decide I'm an annoyance... won't go near cattle without at least a fence between.
And yes, with cats tails, 'play with' is much different than 'grab' - most seem to like the first, almost none like the second.
I have been fairly close up with the business end of an eel when a different instabuddy decided to play with it's tail that was sticking out the other side of the coral.
Again, nothing more than a finger tip gently pushing it back and forth. Was it 'harmed' by this interaction? I don't know....
Fortunately it decided on flight over fight.
There definitely is a difference in what is 'good' behavior when interacting with pets vs. livestock vs. wildlife. Without exposure to each (and particularly seeing them at their worst) it's easy to act inappropriately. The smarter the creature that harder it is to decide - I genuinely believe that something like an octopus is intelligent enough and curious enough to be able to benefit from direct interaction ('play') with a human. Similarly for dolphins and several other creatures. As long as the interaction is not producing stress I can see it as being a good thing.
Personally, however, I like all 10 of my fingers equally, so I tend to go with 'no touching' for the wildlife category. But I might make an exception for a particularly curious creature.
While this discussion is not directly tied to the damage to coral that is the focus of this thread it is relevant to the overall understanding of why different people do different things underwater. I do maintain that some 'back seat divers' need to tone down their 'tsk tsk'ing of any diver who does not behave exactly as they deem to be acceptable.
Winning the battle for lowering impact will always be about improving averages rather than chasing outliers. Getting everyone to clip off their octos/spgs will do far more good than destroying the gear of stick wielding texans or going all Abu Ghraib zappity-zap on anyone that shows up with a camera.