First, the part relevant to OP:
I vote ON. If your SPG shows a meaningful gas loss at any point, you abort the dive. This isn't a stage, it's your emergency redundancy and you want to avoid any possible panic causing delays deploying it.
Second-if you're going to use one anyway, it should replace one of the second stages on your tank, not be in addition to. I would recommend you replace the second stage around your neck with it and that way if you have a real emergency you pass your primary and switch to the secondary which is then attached to the pony. Leave the bottle on at all times.
Semi relevant to OP:
I think this advice really needs a very important caveat. This should only be done with a pony that has sufficient gas to satisfy Rock Bottom (for yourself). One downside to this arrangement is if your buddy goes OOG and you do not have enough gas in the pony to surface calmly and slowly, you've turned a calm easy gas sharing ascent into a (likely much less practiced) buddy breathing ascent. I know you probably find this obvious but felt it was important to call out given OP's 13cuft. I would
not use this arrangement with a 13cuft and with a buddy. OP is solo and 30ft, so might not be totally relevant but felt it was worth pointing out how this impacts gas sharing and planning for gas sharing.
In regards to the other points:
First. Don't use pony bottles, proper planning prevents the need for pony bottles.
Solo aside, I trust
my gas planning. Diving to 90ft with a stranger in cold, limited vis, New England water means I have to ask if I trust
the stranger's gas planning (and discipline to stick to it) as well. You should see the looks I've gotten when I ask people about rock bottom. And they can agree all day to gas plan the way I suggest but then I have to trust that they stick to it. I don't.
I feel like that's the part a lot of people miss. A pony isn't to make up for bad gas planning, training, or discipline. It's to keep you safe when your equipment fails and you are diving with people you don't know if you can trust. If my buddy goes OOG I don't need to give them the pony or even switch to it myself. I'm following rock bottom. They get my primary I switch to secondary and everything is fine. The pony
can be used there for convenience but that's not what it's
for.
I agree that other usages (diving too deep on a single tank, factoring it in for your rock bottom, etc) should not be done with a pony. It's not just "extra gas" at that point it's a false sense of security and turns air sharing scenarios into much more dangerous buddy breathing scenarios.
you need a fully redundant setup in the form of doubles or sidemount, both of which take up less space than a pair of tanks and a pony.
I agree and dive doubles on any dive with a stranger in which a CESA would be hairy.
That said I think this misses the fact that 99% of divers do not own and will never own a set of doubles. We should not act like there isn't a
reasonable alternative for a fraction of the cost (for the specific use cases of diving with strangers you don't trust or solo diving and needing redundant air).