Like some others, I also do not understand why you would want to tinker with GFs so hard, until they "match" your buddy's, I would never do that. The computer should be tracking whatever you think is appropriate for your body, and the conservatism should reflect how you feel on that day, how fit you are, and how much sporty you want to get. To me, this takes precedence over matching GFs. If you are doing an NDL dive, then as said earlier, whoever gets close to the NDL first, or whoever's computer fails first, simply aborts the dive, period. This should ensure that when you begin ascent, even if neither computer works, nobody's in deco, and a basic 30fpm ascent strategy will suffice. If this is not an NDL dive, on the other hand, then you should have redundant computers (or tables, or a rule of thumb, or redundant whatever sources of deco information float your boat), and either a concrete plan you will closely follow, or at least agreement on the basic dive parameters, like max bottom time, max deco, etc.
I myself have definitely been guilty of getting complacent. On a recent dive with a very experienced buddy, we got lazy, and we did not agree on the maximum amount of deco (and, to preempt a certain type of criticism, we did not set a fixed plan and fixed deco schedule, because this really was hardly more than a simple rec dive). Both of us had enough redundancy to do the dive solo, and both of us had plenty of gas. We just agreed we will stick around at the end of the dive, and do whatever deco was required in the shallows. At the end of the dive, I was happily doing my deco with a little under 10 minutes on my Suunto and 20 minutes on my Petrel, while my buddy was getting all excited, and kept poking me to try and get out. Turns out, we used wildly mismatching conservatism settings, we had slightly different gases, his obligation cleared up, and he was frantically trying to dell me that my computer is ****ed. We had more than enough gas to stay longer, but he was cold and in pain. After my Suunto cleared as well, we went up. On a subsequent dive together, I finally gave up and cranked down my excessive conservative settings from 30/70 to 20/80. But, more than anything, I think what went wrong is not so much the difference in conservatism, but the lack of prior communication, and setting boundaries for the dive... which I accept as my fault, because the parameters I was diving with were pretty off from one could consider standard, and it was my responsibility to recognize that, and to either change the parameters I was using, or establish sensible limits to preempt possible problems.
If you read my original post I stated that I feel fine on a 45/95 GF setting for the vast majority of my NDL dives so any changes made would end up towards the more conservative side of the spectrum. For tech dives my settings will vary considerably depending on the depth, bottom mix, bottom time, work load, and diving conditions etc I may even tweak the Hi GFs and pad the shallower stops during deco if its been a pretty busy working phase - but GFs on a tech dive is a whole other extensive discussion.
The question here is simply to see how these two computers compare in an actual NDL dive scenario rather than just reading the NDL charts. Given that the Petrel was originally designed primarily as a tech computer and only later was the recreational mode added, it seems that at least a few folks on SB have discussed this and have been interested in seeing how the Petrel behaves in a typical NDL dive compared to other popular sport diving computers - such as the Suunto.
Indeed the NDL planner doesnt even exist in OC or OC/CC Tech modes and was only added when they did the firmware update with the OC Rec mode. And yes... Im quite aware of following the more conservative of a buddy team's computer NDL/conservative settings, or the diver with the least amount of gas, higher SAC rates, etc.. and other variables that will dictate a dive/buddy team's profile on an NDL or Tech dive.
Anyway thanks for your feedback... your comment on how your Suunto ran up against the Petrel with the GF settings you had and compared to your buddys deco obligations was interesting.