For open water situations:
I'd recommend to go with either the 40-44 inches (depending of your height), or the 7ft - if you plan to share air often or go caving/wrecking later. I have both and find myself switching regularly as I can't decide which configuration is best
- A 'regular' hose works perfectly - but sharing air is limited to emergencies and you can't really navigate while sharing (as you would do with a traditional octopus)
- A 40-44in hose can be routed under the arm, which is more comfortable, and sharing is a bit better - but you still can't really navigate.
- A 5ft hose allow to comfortably share air, and still enjoy the dive - but might be a pain to stow depending on your height (it was for me)
- A 7ft hose is even better while sharing, and about as easy/easier to stow than the 5ft
The inconvenients of the 5ft/7ft hoses are that stowing them while not sharing air is more complicated than with a shorter hose, and that you need to pay more attention to the second stage both underwater and on the boat (it needs to be clipped at all times when not used). Up to you to decide if the extra comfort while sharing air is worth it or not.
I myself have not taken the step towards any form of tech diving at this point but I am however a divemaster candidate and have found I do prefer some of the gear that is commonly used for tech diving. I have gone to a BP&W configuration with a 5' hose on my primary. I do however prefer the integrated octo over a standard octo and neckless. I find it to be easy to find in the event it is needed. I have taken the time to learn to control my buoyancy while breathing from it.
It's clear that you and I are aware that just because the montra of the day says you should use standard gear it doesn't mean the standard won't evolve as the gear does.