Ok, Pete, I have outlined the situation via email, and to no avail. Maybe if I put it up where some objective observers can read it, it might help. I will leave the other party's name out, so you shouldn't be able to claim a TOS violation.
***** and Gidds for whatever reason, have a falling out.
Gidds discontinues contact with *****.
***** continues to attempt to contact Gidds.
*****, with MOD powers, can't be ignored.
Gidds, does not respond to ***** instead she goes to the MODs.
MODs say there is no TOS violation.
Every time the unwelcome contact is made Gidds, instead of responding, reports the post.
Eventually she is told to stop, since she is bothering the MODs (how this bothers the MODs but isn't supposed to bother Gidds is beyond me.)
Gidds quits ScubaBoard.
***** continues to try to contact Gidds through other members, including myself.
Gidds and I ignore it.
***** involves a friend of ours, by giving him a package to deliver. He insists he has to give it to us, we refuse, haven't spoken with this man since.
At this point I take it to the MODs, and am told that there was never a violation, that I am now the problem.
I show the TOS, I attempt to point out how the continuous contact attempts is harassment. Again, told there was no problem, but that now ***** no longer has MOD powers, and I should leave it be.
I agree, and left it alone.
Then ***** starts a "birthday thread" and in it, says that ******'s only wish was to speak to Gidds again, and to dive with sharks" Well, funny thing is, ****** has ALL of our contact info. Email addresses, phone numbers, post office address. Heck, being Gidd's best friend from up north, he even has a key to her storage facility in RI. But, HE has not spoken with Gidds in months. I have emailed him, and tried to contact him via MySpace. But he has yet to contact us back. So, why say that his wish is contact?
People start reading the thread, and asking about it. Trying to get to Gidds for ***** and ******. I had ***** on ignore until this stuff started. I report the post to (MOD), and he PMs me that he is looking into it. When time passes, and contact continues. I contact (MOD) again, and am told that he had to ask ***** about why she posted that. And that he was tired and had to sleep.
Now, knowing that this is an ongoing problem, couldn't he edit the post, then go back, and if it turned out to be unwarranted, correct it. Instead of letting it stand and do it's work. Or, as I have seen done before, pass it on to another MOD.
So, you ask this person if the intent was to harass, and OH MY GOD! They said no? Really? Please, this is amazing. So, by this logic they should empty the prisons, I am sure if you asked the inmates, they would say they were innocent.
So, lets see, by your deffinition, and conviniently you picked one that needed the harasser to do it in an obvious and blatant manner. I guess that harassment could never be done in a stealthy or secret way.
If I was to get your phone number, and was to call you repeatedly, and all I said was good morning. You tell me to stop, and I continue to call..... would that not be harassment?
Well, here we have a case where one person continually attempts to contact another. The second person does not want the contact and made that clear. Yet the contact attempts were continued. The second person did thier best to avoid the contact, and when unable to via the conventional means, went to the "authorities". Who STILL continue to say this isn't harassment, while the contact is STILL being attempted. Nearly a year later.
Using the link you provided to
www.Dictionary.com: and entering the word Harassment I got...
1.
to disturb persistently; torment, as with troubles or cares;
bother continually;
pester; persecute.
2. to trouble by repeated attacks, incursions, etc., as in war or hostilities; harry; raid.
I would say, that a year after ending contact, the
persistant disturbance caused by this continued attempted contact would most certainly fall under the deffinition of harassment.
But no, you continue to make this like it is somehow our fault, and that the only problem is us. Gidds has done EVERYTHING to avoid this person. Has gone to you people when the problem started. For some reason you insist on blaming us.
When there is this clear cut case of harassment, you make it like we are bothering your MODs by reporting it. That the "favor" was done to even take the time to look into a reported post.
I understand that the person might be a friend of yours. But really Pete, you have taken on a responsiblity to the users of SB as a whole. And while it is tough to believe that a friend would do such a thing, the evidence is right there. No matter how tight you sqeeze your eyes.
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