Just to chime in and provide my 2 PSI, since I LOVE my JJ...
1) Congratulations to the OP.
2) If you can afford the NERD, get it. I really like mine, well designed, unobtrusive, lots of non-PO2 information that is helpful to have readily available (compass, deco info, etc..)
3) I have never had my ADV free flow, in any position. I guess if it did, I could shut off the onboard dil, and feather it a bit if for some reason I wasn't ending the dive and/or I needed to descend to get out (like in a cave).
4) The ADV button is very easy for me to reach for dil flush.
5) I haven't found the need for a dil mav, but then again, I don't have an ADV shutoff, so maybe that's it.