My instructors are driving me to quit

[Mako Mark]

I appreciate your offer very much, .

The offer stands, and so does any other support or advice I can give, feel free to PM or email me if you dont want to post it in a public forum. I have been in this area a long time and I know how tough it can be in C.A.

Like I said, take care and remember how easy it is for you to walk away. A ten dollar battie bus ride to Mexicoor Guatemala would do it.

 

[Web Monkey]

Everything is a lesson. It's just not always the one you signed up for.

The unexpected lessons are usually more valuable.

Terry

I appreciate your offer very much, but I have already begun to make arrangements to complete my course elsewhere, even though it will be at some expense, I don't care, I'm determined to do this, and although it saddens me that I will have to give up my apprenticeship, which all in all, is work i love, it will all be worth it in the end.

 

[Nineveh]

Everything is a lesson. It's just not always the one you signed up for.

The unexpected lessons are usually more valuable.

Terry

*laughs*

I was expecting lessons in diving not lessons in life!

However, I hardly think taking a "man-hating" lesson from this is really very productive

Bah, at least now my reflexes are that much sharper when it comes to dodging human projectiles on the high seas!

 

[GrierHPharmD]

You don't sound man-hating, just a*sh*le hating, which is a reasonable response. Don't let those guys sour you on men, diving or adventure (not that I think you have.)

It's a crazy world and a wild ride that we're all on. May you make your migration without incident and have many better times ahead. Come dive with us in South Florida if you're ever up this way. We're a little more well-mannered...

-Grier

 

[NorthernMelody]

I am in the trucking industry and also face harrassment on a daily basis. There is a certain level I'm willing to brush off, but when a line is crossed it's crossed. There's nothing worse than that feeling of being trapped in a situation where you feel you "owe" someone. You say you're getting a free ride, perhaps that's true, BUT, you're also working hard. Sorry men, but I've found that in male dominated industries that women have to work at least twice as hard to be recognized as equal. I'm sure you doing your fair share of work, so you are under no obligation to put up with that inappropriate behavior! The key as other has ablready mentioned, is to document document document...if it wasn't written, it wasn't done. If going to your boos does not give you results and you wish to stay where you are and try and tough it out, keep meticulous notes. Contacting the Agencies with documentation is critical, otherwise it's a yo against them scenario. I'm sorry things aren't fun any more and I wish you the best of luck standing up for yourself!

 

[ShakaZulu]

OMG, you are so hot. Please meet me at the local bar tonight for a drink................just kidding babe, hope all is fine.

 

[Nineveh]

Update on the situation:

Well, its a new work week and things have changed dramatically.

Two things happened:
One: It appears that whatever deity reigns over my fate happens to read this messageboard and is all about quick results. As it turns out, yesterday (my day off from the zoo) the guy who was making my life MOST miserable hospitalised one of the deck hands (punched him in the face, and nearlyd rowning him from what I hear) and was promptly fired. *boggles* talk about some crazy timing.

Two: Now everyone is on their toes about pissing anyone off, just in case. All the guys were on their best behaviour, without above mentioned moron around to egg them on, they just went about their work and acted like completely normal human beings. I was truly amazed.

It never ceases to amaze me the effect that one charismatic (albeit purely evil) individual can have on a group. Even the instructor managed to go the entire day without making some lewd double entendre!

I'm still going to be leaving the shop, but at least this gives me some piece fo mind for the rest of the week!

THank you so much for all your support, it really made me rethink my situation, and got me moving on doing something about it instead of just feeling hopeless and guilty.

I don't know if anyone really cares, but you guys did something really great for me, and lots of karma points will be awarded.

<3

 

[scubafool]

I care, and sitting at a keyboard many miles away, I still feel better that one of those jerks was fired, and mostly that some of us were able to give you a little help even though we weren't there with you. Happy diving, & leave there with yur head held high.

 

[SamDiver14]

You know, I may get yelled at for this but I think that women (in our american society anyway) have an entirely to passive a position on this stuff. I teach my children, my daughter included, to use the Tasmanian devil as an example, those little animals are tiny but there is no predator dumb enough to mess with them because they are so ferocious that it is just not worth the hassle. In other words, why do women feel responsible to be polite or nice to people that are treating them with no respect. I (a male) have no problem giving someone the finger, cursing at them, or attempting to smash their face if the situation calls for it. But I don't think this is really a neccesity, if you feel this way about situations I think the message gets communicated non verbally. I may be a victim sometimes but it is not a role I fill.
If my daughter was being treated that way some people would disappear and the swamp gators would probably get fat. Maybe it is toleration. I can say that I wouldn't tolerate those actions from any of my coworkers toward anyone. That girl is someone's daughter, wife, mother, sister, aunt, grandmother, etc.
Anyway, disrespectful people piss me off anyway.
I have been around women divers that flirted with all the guys and begged for attention. If they don't like the way the men treated them first they need a little self respect not to conduct themselves that way to start with. You can't blame a guy when he thinks he is finding a new fling. One word to the contrary and any further actions by the male, deserve castration.

I guess maybe we just do things different down here. <Dueling Banjos playing in the background>.

 

[ShakaZulu]

@ Sam, really, you should look at the Asian or even the women from the middle east countries.............no rights at all. Are we still living in the dark ages????