Nehallenia
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lostinspace:hun - I hear you.... I'm just trying to kick your butt (badly) so you realise that the discouragement is more the situation than you. and I think you do realise it, but it is easier to blame yourself than the ex.
it is a truly ****ty situation to be forced to stay where you don't want to.
I can't provide any solutions, just to say "you do have a lot to offer someone".
and that special someone will come along. it just takes time..... lots and lots of it. and whilst you may feel that you don't have that time, it will come soon.
at some points your kids will be old enough to travel independently and then you will be able to move with or without your ex's permission.
hang on in there.
I have my fingers crossed that you are right, and that the "tipping point" will happen soon, when I have met enough people, pursuing my interests, to find that someone to share them and a lot more with.