Lonely old lady needs feedback

[TekDiveGirl]

I really thought this over, drbill! And couldn't come to a conclusion. Still a little afraid anyone I let into my life will automatically take it over, and start telling me how to dress, what to eat, who I should like, etc. A little afraid I couldn't be mature about a one-night stand at this point in my life, too. Endrophins are so addictive. I might not be able to let go, even if that is appropriate.

Problem is -- with men like this you don't usually find out they are ike this until it is too late. They are usually sweetness and light while you are dating.

I wouldn't go for the one night stnad thing either though for differnt reasons...

Kimber

 

[Nomaster]

That wasn't an excuse - it is reality. If I really wanted to be with this person, no obstacle would keep me from trying to achieve that goal. I feel ambivalent about the prospect of a long-term relationship with this person, but struggle with just exactly what it was about him that made consider the prospect of physical intimacy for its own sake, and also made me miss him so much after he left (and it wasn't his looks).

Sorry N. didn't mean to imply excuses on your part; excuses was the lead of the second paragraph, which I didn't develop.
The tirade of the first paragraph was about the chord struck when you mentioned the man's being at a safe distance. The devices were a short list of the ways I keep a safe distance from relationships.
Clearer? or did I silt this up even worse?

Tom

 

[Mako Mark]

Clearer? or did I silt this up even worse?

(mark gropes around in the dark for the guideline to make a touch contact exit)

 

[Nehallenia]

Problem is -- with men like this you don't usually find out they are ike this until it is too late. They are usually sweetness and light while you are dating.

I wouldn't go for the one night stnad thing either though for differnt reasons...

Kimber

Ah, too true about the controllers!

Well, one night stands are not my idea of a great sex life either; although they may be preferable to celibacy!

 

[Nehallenia]

Sorry N. didn't mean to imply excuses on your part; excuses was the lead of the second paragraph, which I didn't develop.
The tirade of the first paragraph was about the chord struck when you mentioned the man's being at a safe distance. The devices were a short list of the ways I keep a safe distance from relationships.
Clearer? or did I silt this up even worse?

Tom

Don't worry about the silting - I dive regularly in places with less than 6 feet of vis!

You do have a point about the "safe distance" thing. It is also very easy to idealize a person and edit out their flaws when they are not present.

 

[TekDiveGirl]

Ah, too true about the controllers!

It is unfortunate that sometimes we don't find out until we are way too far into it -- but then sometimes we are lucky and God gives us a way out and then they end up in a box on the mantle.

Well, one night stands are not my idea of a great sex life either; although they may be preferable to celibacy!

Well, I don't know. These are the choices we all have to make I suppose.

Kimber

 

[Nehallenia]

It is unfortunate that sometimes we don't find out until we are way too far into it -- but then sometimes we are lucky and God gives us a way out and then they end up in a box on the mantle.

Oh, evey abused woman's fantasy!! Are you for real, here?

 

[Nehallenia]

Well, I don't know. These are the choices we all have to make I suppose.

Kimber

Fortunately I have not had to make a choice, as the opportunity has never arisen.

 

[TekDiveGirl]

Oh, evey abused woman's fantasy!! Are you for real, here?

As real as a heart attack.

Kimber

 

[Mako Mark]

Well, one night stands are not my idea of a great sex life either; although they may be preferable to celibacy!

Not really Nehallenia, sex is like curry. If you eat it the same day you make it it can really be hot, you burn your mouth and can make you feel sick, without a shadow of a doubt it is better the second day.

One night stands are bad, short flings OTOH boost the ego, clean the pipes and makes us appreciate our own company. THIS is better than celibacy.