And they are only my rules because of the way my friend uses his pony. He would stay on the bottom until he was low on air, switch to his pony for his ascent, suck it dry, then switch back to his primary and suck it dry. I don't allow him to use his pony on my boat any longer because I don't want him thinking he has a security blanket in case he screws up. I'd prefer he dives the way Merry and I do. I didn't say others can't use ponies. My boat is only big enough for three divers.
That sounds like the use of the pony is just the symptom of a mindset problem. Getting rid of the pony doesn't get rid of the problem, just the manifestation. The concern seems to be him not properly planning a dive and sucking his reserve supply dry. Does it really matter if he keeps his air in one tank or two? All pony discussions aside, I would think the approach to take here would be to just stop inviting him.