If you figured out best mix and it wasn't the best mix, then you didn't do it correctly. At least, by the way I was trained. My training is to include all the variables. Maybe I am missing something. What is a variable that would make a Best Mix not be the best mix?
I would not be upset at all if someone I want to dive with places a different priority on standard gases than I do. As long as they don't result in a really big increase in my planned deco obligation (which I don't believe they ever would). Just don't wait until we've agreed on a plan and everyone else on the team has dropped off their tanks to be filled to throw in a change to standard gases.
I'm not really sure what you were trying to say in the last sentence. But, I don't have a major aversion to standard gases. For any given dive, the Best Mix is not going to be THAT much different. So, if someone wants to use standard gases, I'm not going to fuss much. What I have an aversion to is blind adherence and thoughtlessness - e.g. choosing gases for a dive simply because it's what the table says for the depth range you're planning to be in, versus a thoughtful process of figuring out for yourself what the best gases are. For bottom gas, it generally doesn't seem to make much difference. Where I personally have seen the biggest differences is when figuring out what deco gases to use. Being able to use any mix I want lets me optimize my choices based on SAC and cylinder sizes, resulting in, sometimes, a big difference in what I can do based on how much deco I'm planning for. E.g. when I dived the Oriskany a couple of weeks ago, being able to choose EAN70 for my deco gas, instead of 50% or 100%, worked out pretty darn well with respect to the number and size of cylinders I had to carry and the total runtime versus the amount of bottom time I got.
Anyway, I don't want to turn this into even more of a Standard Gases versus Best Mix debate than it has already become. That was never really my point. My point was sharing a story I personally experienced, today, where a GUE diver was hosing up a team plan because he suddenly, unilaterally decided to dive Standard Gases, instead of using the plan that has been in place for months. A story that adds reinforcement to a perception (true or not - it's MY perception, based on MY experiences) that GUE produces some divers who follow rote, instead of thinking for themselves and being adaptable to any situation, and that the culture of GUE is partly responsible for that.