If you are going to take the time to tell every DM/deck hand on the boat to fully open your valves and then ask them again before you step off.... I think you might as well just check yourself before you enter the water? Simply reach back and give it a quick twist.
Removes any element of mis-understanding or mistake, takes 3 seconds and is foolproof - requiring no input from anyone but yourself. Much better than hectoring divemasters, at least in my view.
I agree.
No one opens or closes my valves for me. Period. I turn them fully on immediately prior to putting them on my back then reach back just prior to entering the water and check. Once in the water and occasionally during the dive I check again.