The best advice for closing the gap with your wife: long, slow, deep breaths. New divers often think shallow breaths will make a tank last longer (they think of it as "sipping" air instead of "gulping" it), but the reverse is actually true. Your breathing is more efficient with long, slow, deep breaths. My particular tip is to exhale completely first. You can't take a really deep breath without exhaling completely. In normal breathing, the gas exchange is pretty small, maybe 25% of the total possible volume, so after a normal exhalation, your lungs are still effectively 75% full. Experiment with your breathing and start with the exhalation. If you really concentrate on exhaling fully, you will be very surprised at how long you can exhale.