How do I get my fiancee interested in scuba??... help!!

[idocsteve]

I agree with liuk3, this is the reason I am not married yet...I would rather find someone close to 100% compatible with the way I live and the stuff I love to do rather than divorce due to being unhappy later.

Those are not the only two options.

Why even bother getting married? You find a person you think you're compatible with, you enjoy being with them, there's chemistry, you have similar interests, then you stay together. If it crashes and burns, you go your own separate ways.

The entire concept of "vows" and "lifelong commitment" and "in good times and bad" and "til death do us part" is a complete and utter sham.

As soon as one or both parties feel the heat, they're in the office of a divorce attorney.

Marriage is meaningless. Unless of course you're an attorney or employed in the court system. Then you depend on it for your livelihood.

 

[Jax]

Is this in the spirit of "This forum is intended to be a very friendly, "flame free zone" . . . " ? ?

 

[idocsteve]

Is this in the spirit of "This forum is intended to be a very friendly, "flame free zone" . . . " ? ?

If perchance that post is directed at me and my antimarriage position, let me point out that on this thread I am giving friendly advice and flaming no one.

 

[AbyssalPlains]

...that's why I'm still single.



No, but seriously, I don't think there is much you can do. Don't force her. Try to be patient and show her pictures, take her snorkeling, take her on a dive boat where she can sense the fun and the excitement. Watch Blue Planet together, stuff like that. If over time she warms up to the idea of giving it a try, great, if not, so be it. Of course it is nicer to be able to share experiences, but honestly, I think it's just not possible to have it all. Personally, I have met plenty of women who enjoy diving as much as I do, but whom I have no chemistry with or whom are already in relationships, or who have no interest in me. On the other hand, I have also met plenty of women that I would be interested in but who don't have an interest in diving. I am still holding out to meet someone who likes diving as much as I do, but if I were set on that with no room for compromise, I know I might stay single for the rest of my life. At this point it kinda looks that way, haha....

 

[Brian Sharpe]

To the OP - don't push it. Unlike some others I don't believe that a married couple has to be joined at the hip to be happy (but the others are right - DON'T take your scuba gear on your honeymoon!!)

My wife and I share a number of interests, scuba is not one of them and I'm perfectly OK with that; she rarely hangs out at my band practice either. She has her circle of friends and I have mine and that works fine for us.

On the other hand I would be delighted if she showed an interest in diving (as my kids have) but I am not going to push the idea.

 

[idocsteve]

To the OP - don't push it. Unlike some others I don't believe that a married couple have to be joined at the hip to be happy (but the others are right - DON'T take your scuba gear on your honeymoon!!)

Except maybe a snorkel.

:cool2:

 

[OldNSalty]

Adi-

You have found the love of your life. You want her to go diving with you because you enjoy it so much and you want to share. Relationships are about sharing and the time apart can hurt but do not worry. If she is truely the love of your life, soon you will marry and then have children. After you have children you will not have nearly as much time or money to go diving and you can spend all kinds of time with your love-and being constantly interupted by small children.

Sincerely,

The Luv Dr.

 

[k374]

LMAO at OldNSalty!

 

[Van Isle]

Important tip: Do not take the class with her and try not to be present during the class, even out of the water. Let the dive pro be the dive pro. (Although you can prep him ahead of time about her apprehension.)

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My guess is that she has a small list of fear factors that need to be overcome. I had my own but I'm a "face your fears" kind of person. I'm betting there are some ear clearing issues, possibly the whole drowning thing, and the ever popular mask clearing fears. A good dive instructor can make all of those go away very quickly.

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Good luck, congratulations, and blessings on many happy years together!

This is good advice. IF she takes a class chances are pretty good that you being there will be more of a nuisance and hindrance than a benefit. If you can't trust the instructor without you being there, FIND ANOTHER INSTRUCTOR!

There are lots of valid exceptions to this "rule," but proceed cautiously.

VI

 

[Hotpuppy]

One thing I haven't seen mentioned is to try bringing her to a scuba club social. The scuba club at my local shop is at least half women. She may make some friends.


I wholeheartedly agree with a good DSD experience. I push my friends to Discover Scuba if they say they are interested. I also prep them about the experience.

Many guys dive for the challenge. Most women aren't going to be interested in it solely for the challenge. They will be interested to see things and go places. So you may want to talk up the cool fish.

A trip to a good aquarium might help get her curiosity up. At which point you can mention that looking through the glass isn't as interesting as being in the tank.