How do I get my fiancee interested in scuba??... help!!

[JeffG]

What's a bfk?

big f^%%^$^ing knife

 

[crd_kats]

I just might take you up on the offer, but whether or not I bring my girlfriend depends on the answer to the following question

What's a bfk?

bfk = big effin knife

 

[idocsteve]

bfk = big effin knife

And here I was thinking "Bikini Filled with Kahoonas"

 

[fnfalman]

To me, diving is more than just a hobby. I enjoy doing it, reading about it, posting on the forum about it, seeing what other people have to say about it.

If I was with a person who wasn't into this particular interest...it just might cause problems down the line. Especially if the lack of interest in diving extends to other areas, such as a general love of the outdoors..and I'm not talking about the typical definition of the outdoors as described on most internet dating sites which really equates to 'the place between the car and the shopping mall'. I'm talking hiking, camping, boating, horseback riding, etc.

If your soon to be wife would prefer to shop and do her nails while you're out getting some good natural exercise doing these various activities...you just might have a problem down the line when the honeymoon wears off and you realize that you don't have much in common other than compatibility in the bedroom and the ability to hold a decent conversation.

Just say'en

I kind of agree with you but it's not necessarily so. My best friend of 20-something years have been married for 29-years. Their 30th anniversary is coming up. He's the outdoorsy type and she's not. She goes mall shopping and he goes hunting & camping. It works for them. I think that it's important that the two people sit down and talk about their differences and see if problems may arise.

If she's the obssessive type who refuses to get mud between her toes or salty air in her hair and he's the diving/camping type, then there's a big problem.

Anyway, back to my friend and his non-outdoorsy wife, and slightly off topic, but for their 30th anniversary gift, I talked to them both and bought them two OW classes. She seems to be more excited than him at the prospect of taking SCUBA class.

 

[fnfalman]

I but have some recent scars

Chicks dig scars.

Ooops, I mean dudes dig scars. Anyway, you know what I mean.

 

[idocsteve]

Anyway, back to my friend and his non-outdoorsy wife, and slightly off topic, but for their 30th anniversary gift, I talked to them both and bought them two OW classes. She seems to be more excited than him at the prospect of taking SCUBA class.

Dude you may have just saved their marriage.

 

[crd_kats]

And here I was thinking "Bikini Filled with Kahoonas"

I'm fine with that. Doesn't mean that to me, but hey, if that's what it takes. :cool2:

 

[liuk3]

To me, diving is more than just a hobby. I enjoy doing it, reading about it, posting on the forum about it, seeing what other people have to say about it.

If I was with a person who wasn't into this particular interest...it just might cause problems down the line. Especially if the lack of interest in diving extends to other areas, such as a general love of the outdoors..and I'm not talking about the typical definition of the outdoors as described on most internet dating sites which really equates to 'the place between the car and the shopping mall'. I'm talking hiking, camping, boating, horseback riding, etc.

If your soon to be wife would prefer to shop and do her nails while you're out getting some good natural exercise doing these various activities...you just might have a problem down the line when the honeymoon wears off and you realize that you don't have much in common other than compatibility in the bedroom and the ability to hold a decent conversation.

Just say'en

My wife has let me log over 200 dives in the past year. I think that I do an okay amount of diving, but it is still just a hobby for me. I don't teach nor do I earn income from it. I do it for fun. However, I love her and my family enough to give it up if I had to, and she loves me enough not to ask me to give it up. Same has been true with any of my other hobbies. She's been very supportive all of my activities, as I hope that I've been supportive of hers. In the end, if your relationship can't stand these differences, then you're probably right regarding whether you should be married or not.

 

[idocsteve]

In the end, if your relationship can't stand these differences, then you're probably right regarding whether you should be married or not.

Well sure, if a relationship cannot survive these differences, then the marriage will not work.

With most marriages failing today...divorce rates approaching 60% and many married couples staying together simply for the kids or due to finances, it pays to take a good hard look at the situation and potential red flags before tying the knot and entering a commitment that is statistically more likely to fail than succeed.

 

[k374]

I agree with idocsteve, this is the reason I am not married yet...I would rather find someone close to 100% compatible with the way I live and the stuff I love to do rather than divorce due to being unhappy later.