I have seen both extremes: same day - same ocean & siamese twins. Neither seem right?
My wife buddy & I are wuss divers: warm water, no current, lots of vis (50+ ft) & we do not swim far. So we never get close to OOA. So rule that out as a concern. Generally we travel about 10 feet apart.
My rule of thumb is always maintain AT LEAST clear line of sight to my buddy and make eye contact every 30 to 60 seconds when far apart. So when she goes around that bommy i have to swim up to her. But we can often get 30 to 40 feet apart - when I am lying in the sand just waiting for those gardens eels to come back up to get that perfect picture or when she is letting some peterson shrimps clean her hand. Line of sight & regular eye contact is maintained.
This loose contact is not appropriate for low viz, current or deep. Low viz or current we stay / get out of the water (i said wuss!), deep (below 50ft) we are within 10 ft & make eye contact regularly.
We have had many of the normal simple failures (loose tank, stuck inflator, mouthpiece detatchment, fin strap break, dive boat moved during night dive) dives and have calmly survived.