You're mixing gear from different time periods. The harness you're using is from the time before BCs. The
back pack with no chest strap is what is generally used with a horse collar. With the two rigs you're planning to use, you have a couple of problems. First, they both have crotch straps. You won't be able to rig the horse collar crotch strap (remember to adjust it with the BC fully inflated) with the tank already on your back, so the horse collar has to go on first. With the tank harness you'll find it much easier to rig the chest strap prior to donning the BC. I'd suggest either using a back pack designed to use with a horse collar (no chest or crotch strap) or use the harness without a BC.
The correct order is horse collar then (not than) tank, then weight belt.
As for weighting, you should be neutrally buoyant at the surface with NO air in the BC and a near empty tank. With a 100 cu ft tank, you can weight yourself with a full tank, then add 7.5 lbs to compensate for the air you'll breathe during the dive. The problem with weighting yourself as you described is you'll be underweighted at the end of the dive. While you
may (I wouldn't bet on it) very well be able to hold your safety stop, you'll be hard pressed to ascend slowly from your stop to the surface.