Dody
Contributor
My wife and I have exactly the same diving experience. Same training, same dives. Now, one thing to put in perspective is that neither the DM nor my wife have had the same feeling that I had. For them, everything was under control and there was nothing to worry about. We were not ascending too slow for them, we were not too far from the reef even though we were drifting, we still had visual and we were not in deco. And when we reached the reef at 25 meters, we had almost exactly the expected gas pressure in our tanks and we could see the bottle at 5 meters with no current.Do not change the settings from the default atm. If you feel puzzled then you cannot understand why there are differences. You are not ready for this yet. The reason dive computers for recreational divers have more conservative settings is to keep them safe. Learn to dive to your computer as it is. I think you are trying to be a good diver but are trying to squeeze in the experiences of others which are not your own. You are trying to rush things and I can say when I was a new dive like you I did the same thing. Take all the advice you can here as it is free. SB is like your I can ask questions and get answers. Sometimes the answers we will not like. There as no SB back in 1986 so I only had the BSAC club instructors, dive leaders and experienced divers I could ask at training sessions or at the club or on the boat.
I never rely on a DM the DM is a guide I have to dive to my own settings and monitor my own air and depth.
I would take issue more with your DM that he allowed you to get into an unsafe dive situation as you are on a training dive and your first deep dive to 40m which you exceeded. You think your DM is a good diver because he is a DM. You think your instructor is a good instructor but where was your instructor on your training dive? Sipping a latte back at surface? Not with you on the dive that we know.
Did you tell your instructor you exceeded 40m depth and probably exceeded NDL when you struggled to ascend. If you were struggling to ascend why didn't your DM assist by putting some air into your BCD and giving you an assisted ascent? Your wife is there why did she fail to recognize this as well. You have not answered was this also her first training dive to 40m. Is she also a student doing the course together with you? Reviewing the dive log with your instructor would be a good thing to do.
Maybe get your instructor to read this thread.
Near miss, ok.