fight with girlfriend over dive safety.....

[Robert Phillips]

With her being in Puerto Rico, give her 3 months and she'll double or triple your dive count and if she's a smart girl, will have tons more experience than you. Give her a chance to learn her comfort zone without questioning her ability. Next time you visit her, you'll be the noob!

 

[minnediver]

Hey Halthron, I didn't realize it was 100 feet. I thought it was about 80. And aren't the guys who don't think to highly of computers usually the ones who have run into problems by diving into some of the grey zones of the more liberal algorithms? I thought even padi tables were just a very conservative version of the old Haldane algorithm?

First the PADI deep dive can be as deep as 100' so that is a non issue. Second there are actually people that teach how to dive properly without depending on a computer. They use information that is actually up to date and they also do very deep technical dives to prove it, and the stuff works.

As for questioning her, what makes you know more than her? I know there are some bad instructors out there but perhaps her instructor knows more than you and they completed an absolutely safe dive? I think asking questions about the dive is ok but you can't call her judgement into question.

 

[tedtim]

Camshaft,

There is wise counsel in all the previous replies. After 24 years of marriage I've learned that sometimes it's best to bite your tongue and accentuate the positives. You are lucky your girlfriend shares your passion for diving. In your position I would roll with the punches, and save your fuss-potting for when you are seriously worried about your girlfriend's safety.

Paul m

I have to agree with Paul. We are approaching 25 years of marriage next February. I started diving in 2001. My wife started diving in 2003. At first she was more than a bit timid and asked for my help with a few things. Now, its hands off of her stuff (unless it is carrying a couple of tanks down some steps).

I never worry about my wife's saftey in the water. She is ultra conservative and is more than happy just to get in the water. After two dive trips to Honduras, she is now planning our anniversay trip to Bonaire.

 

[Scubaguy62]

Camshaft,

It's ok to be concerned with her safety. It's not ok to bully her into thinking as you do, or seeing things from your point of view. What you're doing with this is telling her, "I don't care what you think, I know more than you and you're doing it wrong if you're don't do it my way." Don't rationalize it, that's what she hears. Take it from me, I know puertorican women (assuming she is); I'm married to one, and I am also puertorican. I know how stubborn we can be. Nonetheless, it might just help you to place a little trust in her, and to concern yourself with your safety first. Assuming you're more detailed than she is, it would be best if you can think ahead and "predict" how she'll act and be prepared to deal with it rather than to critizice her...

Just my .02 psi.

 

[Damselfish]

If I were her, I'd probably be annoyed at the inquisition too. This comes across less like concern and more like trying to poke holes in everything. Maybe that's not your intent, but it's still the way it comes across. I'd say back off and trust her more, and also work on educating yourself more so that if you mention a concern you have it's at least a real concern. She did nothing unreasonable that I can see questioning - she did a 100 foot dive during AOW which is within standards, I'm sure it was planned and exactly the point of that dive and using a computer has nothing to do with it being safe or not.

 

[HowardE]

FYI... My AOW cert, we went to 110' ...

It sounds to me like the real reason for the anger is jealousy.