Basking Ridge Diver
Contributor
One certainly doesn't know if a buddy could have intervened successfully in any of these cases. Denton Byers had an attentive and highly capable buddy, and died anyway. But without a buddy and a tale to recount, none of the friends or family know anything about what happened, and I can't help but think that they would forever wonder if the outcome would have been different, had the diver not been alone.
Your point is reasonable and I understand the premise.
Would it not be better to have a frank discussion with your loved ones and have a discussion on the inherent dangers of diving? It seems to me at the level of proficiency that divers must have for the Doria - a conversation is and should be in order - on how would you feel if my body was not recovered.
I think everyone should be thinking about it if not talking about it with buddies and family. How much personal danger do you want your buddy to endure to try and save you? Personally I am ok with not being found (I do not want anyone to risk getting hurt) and I have had this conversation with my wife - it may be remote based on my general diving profiles for my body not to be recovered but I wanted her to hear it from me and make sure she was ok with that decision. I did not want her worrying about me more than she does. Had she not agreed - I would have had to come up with a different option or stop diving. We are all closer to our final day than our first day - because we don't know when that day will be.
I feel bad for everyone on the boat, friends and family. But I believe - it is going to happen at some point to someone you know or on a dive that you are a party to and there will be nothing you can do to stop the inevitable. So maybe a conversation is in order.