All these backup horror stories just illustrate why it's so much easier to dive with a long hose, and a backup on a necklace. The backup is always there when you need it, and I mean RIGHT there.
Also, the long hose makes it really easy to share air. In fact, it's so easy, I've been on rec. dives where I've shared air just because my buddy was getting a bit low and we didn't feel like turning the dive yet. I just handed him my primary, went to my backup, and we continued for a while longer. Of course we didn't wait for him to be dangerously low, he had plenty of gas so that at any time we could still both easily get out on what was in his tanks.
I'm telling you guys, part of the reason the DIR divers push the system so hard is that it's just way more fun, and way less stress. Everything works beautifully, everything has been tested by many many divers, and the system has proved itself on very serious dives, far more serious than I'll EVER do.
There may be another system out there that works, but how can you be sure? When everyone dives a completely different setup, you end up with no way of veryfying that any of these setups stand the test. The time you find out is usually when you really can't afford to do so.
I love to tinker and figure things out for myself an be different etc. But when it comes to life support, tried and true is better. If you want to tinker, buy a boat. You can mess with that till the cows come home, pour all your money into it, and if everything goes to hell call the coast guard. You don't want to "tinker" with life support. Just look at all the people who've lost thier life in this sport, countless ones were "tinkerers". Just off the top of my head, there was a guy in San Diego diving a modified breather. Then there was the guy diving that huge contraption with 7 different tanks strapped to his back (tony maffatone I think). It's not worth it to do that.
By all means, make sure that DIR makes sense. Ask questions, like I did, argue everything down to where you are convinced one way or another. That's exactly what I did. But in the end, if it all makes sense, then any reasonable person must come to the conclusion that it's safer to follow this sytem than reinventing the wheel.
Please excuse the long diatribe.