My heart aches for you. Long time friends lost their teen boy in a car accident this past fall. He'd only had the car for two days.
When the mother of that boy was younger, her older (but still young and strong) brother died suddenly.
At some point, their aunt contacted a wild animal rescue and rehabilitation center and sponsored an owl in his memory. A couple of months later, on the day that glorious, healthy, huge bird was to be freed back into the wild, we were all there. A protective leather glove was put onto D's father and that heavy bird was set upon his forearm. Then the father raised his forearm and the owl spread its huge healthy wings and lifted off into the sky. We watched until it was out of sight.
It's very difficult to explain but it wasn't just the owl that flew free. Everyone watching was freed from their pain, just a little bit that day.
My wish for you and yours is that you'll find some bit of comfort too someway somehow.
When the mother of that boy was younger, her older (but still young and strong) brother died suddenly.
At some point, their aunt contacted a wild animal rescue and rehabilitation center and sponsored an owl in his memory. A couple of months later, on the day that glorious, healthy, huge bird was to be freed back into the wild, we were all there. A protective leather glove was put onto D's father and that heavy bird was set upon his forearm. Then the father raised his forearm and the owl spread its huge healthy wings and lifted off into the sky. We watched until it was out of sight.
It's very difficult to explain but it wasn't just the owl that flew free. Everyone watching was freed from their pain, just a little bit that day.
My wish for you and yours is that you'll find some bit of comfort too someway somehow.
I wish there was some way for us to ease your pain. Losing someone you love is always painful and there is a element of disbelief that is especially hard to break through when it is a sudden death. When life changes in an instant you can't possibly absorb it or adjust to it for some time. Special days and events just open the wound again. I hate to say "this is normal" because there should be nothing normal about a loss such as yours! My best friend's husband died in a car accident and when I walked into her home it was like I had stepped into a time warp. The expressions, reactions and emotions of the family were exactly like my family when my 19 year old brother was killed by an impaired driver years before. One foot in front of the other is all you can do. The only reassurance I can give you is that today is just another day you will conquer and you will win through in the end! I am so sorry you are going through this.
