I see it as a problem too but probably for a different reason than you do. The problem that I see, if your description of her attitude is accurate, is her understanding of the real message of the gospel. That message is that we are not good and can never be good enough and are therefor in need of saving (someone to pay our debt for us). That's where Jesus comes in.
Christianity (the real message of the gospel) is initially unpleasant to everyone. It's a bad news/good news kind of thing, which is probably why it's so often watered down and twisted even in churches. The bad news is that we are all in trouble, that we all fall far short of Gods standard and can't do anything about it on our own. Sometimes telling people that just isn't a good way to increase church membership or get more money in the basket. Most people think they are basically good and ought to be in fairly good shape with God (if there is a God). The more I study the Bible the more I understand just how false that assumption is for me (and probably everyone else too). Still it's not something that goes over very well right off. The good news is that Jesus can and did do what we aren't able to and that is to pay for those inadequacies and intercede on our behalf. That intercession is offered to us as a gift out of God's grace. What we have to do is to believe and ask. The idea that we can't fix it on our own doesn't do anything for our pride or self reliance and doesn't always go over very well either which is no doubt why the Bible is so clear about our pride being an offense to God.
A Christian should believe that Jesus (not the various mangled forms of Christianity) is the only means of salvation because that is the punch line that the entire Bible builds up to. the Old Testament illustrates that man can't do it and the New Testamant offers the solution. Another point that doesn't go over well...you don't get it your way or on your terms but on Gods terms or not at all. We like choice and to have things our way. The Bible is also clear that mans ways are not Gods ways.
So, there is an awful lot about the message that people are not going to like and the fact that many reject it isn't surprising and it certainly isn't anything new. To make matters worse, the gospel does not promise a better life for following Christ. In fact, just the oposite, that it will be difficult and likely bring us persecution here on earth. Telling people that, is no way to fill a church with folks dropping money in the basket either. People want something that makes their life easier not harder.
Now, to your point, how does some one who believes all that "trample all over everyone else's beliefs"? Speaking for myself, if someone asks, seems interested or the subject just comes up, I'll tell them. Just like here, I usually get into these conversations, when I see comments about Christianity or the Bible that I think demonstrates an incorrect understanding of it. Of the many people who comment on the content of the Bible or the short falls of Christianity, almost none of them seem to know what is really in the Bible. So...when the oportunity presents itself, I'll speak to the extent that I feel able. When I vote in elections, I'll vote the way I think I should just as you will. I may speak up when the government or the school system tries to force me or my children to accept something that I believe is wrong. Of course, I see that as trying to prevent my own beliefes from being trampled on rather than trampling on yours. You don't want your children taught creation in school (as an example) and I don't want my children taught that they are as a racist if they disapprove of certain lifestyles that scripture plainly tells us is an abomination to God. Our culture my extend you the right to adopt those lifestyles as you see fit but so far it does not give you the right to force my approval.
That is changing though isn't it? I recently heard about some legislation going through in California that withholds state funding from institutions who do not condone certain lifestyles. Now, as far as I've been able to find out, most parochial schools (for instance) get very limited government funding...they may qualify for funding toward the lunch program or something. Yet to teach the unaltered content of the Bible, as I understand the legeslation, would disqualify them from that. Government, trying to reach right into the church?
I heard about legeslation in Canada which, as it was explained, defines hate speach such that teaching certain content of the Bible might actually be illegal. Are we close to seeing ministers taken to jail for reading scripture in their own church?
Who's beliefs are being trampled? Our society today is all about tolerance but that tolerance sometimes seems very selective. We are to be tolerant of the things that we are ordered to be tolerant of and disobedience absolutely will NOT be tolerated. LOL
There may be "Christian" lobby groups that you may not care for but there are all kinds of lobby groups (they're what makes our government tick) and I'm certainly not to thrilled with many ACLU activities.
I don't know about you but I get hundreds of spam emails every week, soliciters call on the phone and come to the door. Around elections we get all kinds of campaigners knocking on the door. Maybe two or three times a year some religious group knocks on the door. I live in a small town and it's usually some one from one of the local churches (which we don't attend) inviting us to some function. It's barely a blip on my spam radar. The salesmen wants to sell, the politician wants to get elected and someplace in there someone might knock on the door and offer to tell you about the things that I just told you about.
If it were up to me personally, I'd outlaw all those phone calls, emails and knocks on the door because I value my privacy at least as much as you value yours.
I certainly understand that there is much about the "Christian message" that is offensive to some. You're not alone in being offended though. I am often offended. If I turn on the TV or the radio, is doesn't take long to hear or see something that offends me. If I read scubaboard, it doesn't take long for me to find something that would offend me if I let it. Surely if I talked about some groups as people here talk about Christians I would be erased from the board. I think the world is an offensive place and our only choices concern which things are going to offend us. However, I believe that a correct Christian view doesn't focus on what offends us but rather on what offends God, and further, I shouldn't be focused on what you do to offend God but on what I do that offends God.
